S5E37: Breaking Free from Scarcity Thinking - How to Feel Rich Before You’re Rich
If I reminded you that you are perfect, would you argue me down or step into your perfection? To perfect tomorrow. To perfect tomorrow. There are no excuses, no expectations, and we explore the world without limitations. I'm Jay Clay, rapper, the spiritual teacher, with my cohost Troy Washington, your friendly neighborhood realtor.
JClay:Let's be real. So let's be perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect.
JClay:Perfect.
Troy Washington:What up? Welcome to perfect mode. And first off, let me start by telling you that we love y'all. We're grateful for the opportunity to be anywhere sharing our thoughts, hopefully, and helping you realize that you are perfect. And the reason why I can say that unapologetically is because I know that you are one of one.
Troy Washington:Numero uno. You cannot be replicated, duplicated, and the only reason. And I mean, the only reason you think otherwise is if you're looking at this person on the side of you and saying, I'm not them. But guess what? You are you.
Troy Washington:And that's all you need. And of course, it's yours truly. Troy Washington, your friendly neighborhood realtor. And I have my boy, Jay Clay, spiritual rapper and teacher. And we're about to jump on and talk about breaking free from scarcity thinking, how to feel rich before you're rich.
Troy Washington:Woah. Whoo. What up, Jay?
JClay:Yes. Yes. Happy day. Let's get this money.
Troy Washington:Let's get this money, man.
JClay:Happy happy Sunday to all my perfect people in perfect land. He had the perfect time at the perfect place for the perfect message to be received and given and all this good stuff, and I'm very excited about this message in particular. And it's funny that it came up when it did too. So, yeah, let's let's let's get into it.
Troy Washington:You know, I gotta shout out my boy, my boy, Albert Roberts, and I sent you this message this week. He told me just to remember Pimpsy ain't nobody tripping because the money already made. Ain't nobody tripping because the money already made. So what's up, man? What were you thinking?
Troy Washington:I know you said you need I know this is I ain't gonna say you need it, but this is a topic of discussion in your world right now, and this is definitely a topic of discussion in my world right now. But what were you thinking when you first saw this topic?
JClay:Yeah. It is one of these things that, like, for one, I've I was just noticing. I was like, man, I should be should be more richer than I think I I am right now. And it it wasn't matching, so it's like, okay. Naturally, all things are a reflection of of the inner self.
JClay:So, you know, like, you might have a block somewhere. You might believe something about money or believe something about anything in your life when it's showing up. And it's like, wait a minute. Let me let me start diving into this. And I and I hadn't I really haven't done it in a while.
JClay:Like, I did this before a while back. Made a big difference once I, you know, just really looked at certain things when it comes in terms of money, but I realized that I did have some some energy and blocks that just I don't know. That that that hadn't been addressed. And and I'll just say this for instance, like like fears. Right?
JClay:Like, I I I've overcome fears of, like, death or being ill or something. I feel like I could take a bullet and just heal like that. I mean, I'm not saying shoot me. I'm not saying that at all, but I'm just saying it's funny, but I I didn't take care of I didn't look into the my deep thoughts about finances and what it takes and all this other stuff. And I I really wanted I I've really been doing a deep dive of it.
JClay:And when this topic came up, it was like, oh, yeah. Let's let's talk about the successes that have been happening just for me making these, tiny little changes. But go ahead.
Troy Washington:Now funny. I'll tell you where my mind is. So so first of all, dope that there has been a chain reaction based off of your thinking Because, you know, I I think it's important that everybody realize that it all starts from here anyway. It all starts from here anyway. So I believe it to be true that because you changed the way that you thought about things, you know, there was a a hurdle that was overcame.
Troy Washington:Now for me, it's funny because scarcity thinking has dwelled within me in on a numerous of occasions. But me having kids, it makes me so different than sometimes I feel. And because I show different, I end up feeling different in in instances. And what I mean is my kids, especially my little one, him not having any knowledge about money and things of that nature, truly how we think money work anyway. Right?
Troy Washington:He thinks that I'm rich, richer than what I believe for myself. And so it doesn't matter what comes up. He's always like, well, we got we dad, you got you rich. Right? You and mama rich, and and it's funny because I never wanna tell him that I'm not rich.
Troy Washington:You get what I'm saying? Yeah. So it it causes me emotionally and mentally to to to dive into what he's saying and change the way that I feel and, of course, you know, move accordingly and still try to accomplish all the things and not let money be a key factor. But, you know, that's just kinda, you know, the overlap. Go ahead.
Troy Washington:Go ahead.
JClay:Yeah. But, no, no, he he he he brought up one thing that we don't realize. Right? Because a lot of times what you feel, it, it reverberates. People can see it, and it affects your own thinking and the opportunities that you take advantage of because you you feel rich.
JClay:You're like, oh, yeah. I can forego this little lesser opportunity. I can do this even if that's your only opportunity right now. But one of the things I I feel he brought up is maybe you're not or just people in general aren't celebrating enough what they do have and how nice they do have it, how great life is. Like, sometimes we we look at the one little area that's like, ah, if I can fix that, then I'll be great.
JClay:Ignoring all this other stuff. Like, man, my my life is pretty great right now, and I'm I'm happy that I have the opportunity to even sit back and watch a podcast right now and and and learn and enrich my life because I do have that luxury. I do have that freedom. And and there's so many other luxuries and freedoms that we have that we don't always, celebrate or acknowledge.
Troy Washington:So and and and to that point, using him as the example or using my family as as an example. If I say, you know, right now, I don't have enough money for a Lamborghini, then personally, I feel some type of way. But when I think about all the things that we want to do or all the things that we're doing, like you said, being appreciative of the now. Right? Like, all my kids do love to do is play basketball.
Troy Washington:And everything pertaining to basketball, we're actually doing. So that lack or that feeling of lack never shows up in our life because as long as I got a basketball and I'm able to go play with my friends, we have everything. And I think that as adults, that's what we lose. We we lose track in sight of the now. Like, like you said, right now, I am literally watching that podcast.
Troy Washington:If you're watching this podcast, shout out to you. We appreciate you. But I'm watching a podcast. This is what I want to do in this moment. Of course, I want a Lamborghini.
Troy Washington:If I could get a Lamborghini, I get a Lamborghini. But right now, I don't I'm not lacking anything. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. So check this out. Well, first, shout out to Betty. She kinda put me on this. Like, she has different workshops about manifesting and stuff.
JClay:And she asked me like, hey. Are you tracking your income? I was like, yeah. I check all my finances. I I got all that.
JClay:But she meant, like, really just the income, just focusing, excuse me, on everything that's coming in. And I realized I hadn't been. So I I I started doing it, like, maybe three weeks ago, and I saw where all of my income was coming in, not just money, but just gifts, like, that have maybe a monetary value attached to it. And so, of course, my number one was the work I did for money, the the exchangement of physical activity. But my second of was was passive income was, like, income from royalties and songs, but it was a lot more than I realized.
JClay:Like and I I have even more appreciation for like, I I almost counted it out because I was like, it's not significant enough, but, nah, it's it's it's creeping up there, which is which is beautiful. And then not only that, I realized how much gift income I have. Like, meaning, like, people maybe gave me something or just a a nice kind gesture, anything, and it just it surprised me too. Like, man, this is beautiful. I didn't even realize I was this gifted.
JClay:And I I don't mean, like, you know, in talent wise, but just Yeah. Straight up. And in in in truth, I'm sure many of us are. We're we're just not paying attention to it, and we're just not realizing it.
Troy Washington:And, again, I think that's a part of minimizing things that we haven't deemed or given its proper importance to. And, you know, I I I love the fact that you pointed out well, you didn't necessarily say it, but you insinuated that income is not money all the time. Income is advice. Income is emotional support from people. Income is sometimes people.
Troy Washington:And those things actually all equate to finances in some way, form, or fashion because alleviating you from something is something it it has to be important. And, again, just losing sight of that. And, again, that's why I love having kids, and I love the journey that I'm on with my kids because, like, this summer, bro, you know, we've been traveling all over the place. And if you, if I, if I look financially at the the money, not I'm not talking about income, what we're talking about, but if I look financially, money, then and you ask me, hey, can y'all go do this? I'm going to be like, well, I don't know.
Troy Washington:You know what I'm saying? Like, I don't know. I can't see it. But again, the funny part is the way life works itself out if you recognize things for what it is and you know you know you know, how things are really moving, you can really see the true income that you have. And not only that, when you know, one of our things to say on the show, and I'm a I'm a I'm a give you prosper coin in this, things that you appreciate, appreciate.
Troy Washington:And when you start to appreciate those other incomes, they grow exponentially as well. They start to morph into more than what they actually were when you first recognized it too. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And and to what you said, like, even asking that question, I've been asked something recently where, like, hey. You wanna go to this thing? And I and I I saw that I wanted to just say no with every ounce of my being, and the reason was tied to, I don't know where I get that money from, which is not, you know, feeling rich being in that mindset. But instead, I kinda checked myself, and I was like, well, what are the dates?
JClay:Let me write it down. Let me see what I can do. Like, in other words, I'm allowing myself to act as if I am planning to go, you know, versus just cutting off the opportunity, shutting it off, and affirming that I won't have it, you know, in instead of that I I at least might. You know? I the and, of course, there is a better way that I could have handled that, but the way I handled it, I feel, is still better than how I wanted to handle it initially, which is the vibration that I was being attuned to.
JClay:And then I wanna break up too, though, when we're talking about think about how you can celebrate right now things you usually overlook. And like you brought up, Troy, what we appreciate appreciate like, I'm I'm so appreciative of the people and the gifts of my life. Like, man, I didn't even realize I I didn't, man. I and it's crazy. But go ahead.
Troy Washington:Bro, bro, so it's it's the couple thing. Like, I could tell you a million things over the past month that have been ex extremely amazing to me. But but what I what I will do because I know we we have to get into how to get to this mindset and how to train yourself. But, man, the last two summers that I've had have been financially the toughest summers that I probably have had in my entire life as an adult. Right?
Troy Washington:You know, being an entrepreneur and, you know, exploring life the way that you explore, they have been financially challenging. But again, the things that I've done over the past two summers with my family, like, you know, it is you again, there there's no way that I could explain how it was done other than me appreciating the people and the things that are around me. Again, places that we were you assume that we would never have been, we have been. And I'm talking about two summers in a row where money was not the main object. You know what I'm saying?
Troy Washington:But but, you know, like I said, we gotta get into, you know, how to break from free from this and seeing things for what they are. You know what I mean? But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And and the first way, I mean, we talked on the I talked about it, but let's just say it again. Like, if you can keep track of those things, of those of of anything coming in, like you said, a gift or anything, shout out to, to Jasmine. So, I I do I I started back doing taekwondo last year. I had did it before for three years and stopped for, like, ten, eleven years.
JClay:I repicked it back up. And, like, the main instructor there, his wife is a photographer, she wanted to get back into it. And, like, I like, for my next single coming up, I need an image. I have the artwork already ready. I just need an image.
JClay:And she's like, I got you. Just come in, take a quick picture. Good. So now I don't have to set up a whole photo shoot and get everything set up. I could just easily quickly go for free, which is which is in well, I'm not gonna put a price to it, but it is very valuable to me at this point.
JClay:And and that's just another form of abundance that we all have access to. But until we recognize it, we don't appreciate it. We don't realize how blessed we are. And sometimes just feeling that feeling as blessed and supported that we are allows us to be more blessed and and supported.
Troy Washington:And I and I think just to kinda add a little bit to what you're saying about recognizing that it it's a little bit more than recognizing. Because, again, I I I say things that you appreciate appreciate. When you start to take account of these things in your life that have come to you or or, again, what you're living in this moment, like, taking a deep dive of meditation into it. Like, understanding that this is not it's afforded to everybody, but not everybody recognizes it. Not everybody sees it.
Troy Washington:Not everybody is able to maximize whatever it is. Because, again, whenever you even when you start to take account of things, there still could be a lack of appreciation for it. Because for whatever reason, some things are just low on the totem pole of importance. You know, again, a hug. You know, that hug that made you get up and leave your house that day.
Troy Washington:You know what I mean? Like, you know, your your your kids giving you a high five. You know what I'm saying? Or saying, thanks, dad. Like, that was cool.
Troy Washington:You know, just now, we we came from a basketball game this morning, and my son lost the game. Right? But, you know, the coach from the other team was like, yo. You know, this kid, he played basketball more than we think he played. You know, this the recognition, that's income.
Troy Washington:The the which is motivation to keep that motor going. Like, you have to be able to get to step two. So how do you get that motor going? How do you keep that engine revved up to get you to the next step that gets you to whatever the next step is? But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And and and oftentimes, like, all those steps are always there, and that that's the that's the main point. Like, they're they're always there. It's just are you stopping to recognize it? And that like, even even that one change just changed everything.
JClay:Like because I I realized that almost every day, I have an entry from the month of June, like, which is which is crazy to me to think that I've received that much. And, yeah, and and and it's beautiful. But not only that, like, sometimes what okay. Once we recognize what we're getting, it makes it easier for us to work with what we have. And what I mean by that is, like, you and I, we're sitting on some gold mines with some projects we worked on.
JClay:Like, we even went as far as have a a a MVP, what they call a minimal viable product. We've tested it. It's sound. We just we let other stuff get in the way to move forward with this. So so, anyway, if anybody, wants to invest in some stuff, holler at us after this.
JClay:We we have some ways. But I said it to say that, like, we've always had this. We've always been been sitting on more than we realized that we have. We we have a bigger treasure than we realized, and we're not unique in this. Everybody has this.
JClay:It's just that they're catering to things that are outside of their treasure. You know what I mean? Like, they're they're trying to be in other people's treasures or trying to get that one. It's like, no. You just mind you mind yourself.
JClay:Like, you you got this.
Troy Washington:I and I'll tell you too. Again, even going a step further, and, again, I'm I'm speaking on my behalf and and what I do, bro. Like, I I when I say this, I literally mean when I say I overappreciate things. I like, when somebody does something for me or something shows up, if you're talking to me, I'm gonna tell you I appreciate you more times than you probably want to accept. Right?
Troy Washington:And the reason why is because I'm letting myself know how important it is. I'm over appreciating it in my mind and in my in my in my soul so that way I can recognize not only so that way I can truly recognize how blessed I am. And again, you know, the I'm I'm using my kid as the example, you know, just because this is just fresh on my mind. But this team that we're playing on is not our team. Right?
Troy Washington:And, again, we lost. It's not like we have the best team in the world. We just it's just my son to get extra reps. And they're appreciative of my son playing on the team because I think per perception, they feel like he's one of the more skilled people on the team, and it's a it it it's it's more, like, needed for him to be there. You know what I'm saying?
Troy Washington:But I I know that just me being a coach, I've been around a parent who feels like their kid is the best kid on the team, and they're like, you appreciate I should appreciate them for him being there. Right? But vice versa for me, I'm letting him know I appreciate the opportunity for my son to be anywhere. And not only that, for my son to be able to practice a little more, be able for my son to be able to get more reps up. And and I want you to know.
Troy Washington:He like, bro, like, your son good. I'm like, no. You don't understand how much I appreciate you because I know that it doesn't come that way all the time for everybody unless you're able to recognize and feel it the right way. And again, just an an, you know, just kind of another little quick story. Like, I got a truck.
Troy Washington:I got a F152007 F150 truck. My truck has been down since last year. Didn't have the money to do whatever I need to do for it. So, I was like, you know what? Just let that mug be.
Troy Washington:I'm not even going worry about it. I got two other cars. We're to get around the way we want to get around. But in my heart, I always was like, man, I would love to get my truck back. I just, I love my truck.
Troy Washington:I I that's that's the truck, the body style. I'll rock it till the wheels fall off. So again, appreciating it, not forgetting how much I care about it, but still not putting the weight of the world on myself to get that mug done. And then I get a call from one of my friends, you know, a couple days ago. He's like, yo, Troy, you know, you still want your truck?
Troy Washington:Y'all want my truck. Well, so look. My car got the same motor your truck got in. They got the same transmission that got in it. You know, you showed me some love back in the day.
Troy Washington:I got you. Next week, I'm a have somebody come pick up your truck. I'm a get the motor taken out, put it in your truck, put the transmission in it. It's going save you about 3 or $4,000 Boom, boom, boom, boom, right? And I can't, again, I understand the relationship that I got with this person, but again, I I cannot express the amount of appreciation, but a part of that is, me appreciating and not appreciating what I have now.
Troy Washington:Making room for more and appreciating, you know, that though I I could feel like there's lack or you know, me saying have it, I guess, having the scarcity thinking like, man, I'm never gonna get this thing fixed. I might as well just sell it and do all of this stuff. I'll allow for the the the world to recognize my appreciation, and, you know, it changed my the dynamic of where I'm living at now.
JClay:Yeah. I love that. And so some some other things that we can that people can start doing, like, to step into this is wanna know what you want. Like, in your story, you knew you you want your truck. You wanna get that get it fixed.
JClay:You appreciate it. You you held it in your mind like, I'm a get it fixed. I don't know when. I don't know how I'm going to get it fixed. And oftentimes, which we talked about plenty of times on the show, we don't know what we want.
JClay:Like, start getting into what you want. Everything. Write it out. You might not think of it all right now, but just as it comes, like, oh, yeah. I'm I'm doing this.
JClay:I see myself doing this. I see myself doing that. And you have a guide. You have something to look into. You have something to start affirming to to get in the space.
JClay:Like, I heard somebody speak recently. Think it was Bashar. He was talking about how often people desire something, but they won't practice it. Like, they won't practice stepping into that role. They won't practice being that person.
JClay:And I heard another quote recently too about, like, they said, like, depression isn't sadness. It's saying, you can no longer be this person, or it's it's telling you you can no longer play this role. And, like, that's all everything is. Right. Yeah.
JClay:That that's that's dope. That's all everything is. It's a role that we play that we can step into. When we get around certain energies and certain people, other things come out. And if this is the life we wanna live, start being around people that bring those things out of you to make it easier for you to assume that role.
JClay:And it helps. Like, just just practice. Practice being the you you want to be right now.
Troy Washington:So, man, so there there are a couple things to this. So number one, I know we we we hit hard on appreciation. And and and I also, you know, kinda alluded to not letting go of something that I really want. But I also would also say, you know, a part of this is letting go of stuff that shouldn't be there. You know what I'm saying?
Troy Washington:Like, being able to release and make room for more. And, again, a part of that is the scarcity thinking. Like, if I let this go, then I no longer have or I no longer get or I'm gonna be without. And I I did I think that's an important factor in appreciation. Because sometimes there is no appreciation, and you still won't allow things to move aside.
Troy Washington:But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yes. That's key. Letting go, decluttering, all of that. Because, again, like, it is when you're holding on to things that, one, you don't really have a use for or that don't really add that much joy into your life, you're you're saying you're okay with just being less than. Like, you're just saying, hey.
JClay:This is adequate for me. It doesn't do anything for me. It doesn't add anything, but at least I have it. I mean, that's not real appreciation. That's just I don't even know what what to call that.
JClay:And like you said, by by removing things, you you see the space. You see it like, oh, your imagination start working. I can put this here. I can put this in this space. I can fill it with this.
JClay:This is how my next wardrobe would be. This is how my next vehicle would be. You start cultivating that in your imagination so you start attracting it to you. But not only with physical things, with thoughts. Like, are so many beliefs around money.
JClay:Like I said, so many that have been coming up for me that it's like, man, I didn't realize I believe that. I need to let that go. Like, I didn't I didn't realize that like, for one, I'll share one. I started okay. I started off this episode by saying I felt that I should be more richer than I I seem to be, and I was like, I I don't understand.
JClay:And one thing that came up was that god doesn't want me to have more money than I have right now. And I'm like, where did I get that? Why do I have that? It it was like because, you know, I I enjoy challenges in in a sense. But I was like, no.
JClay:That's that's the own challenge that I put on myself. Like, oh, I'm a do this with with $0, or I'm a I'm a do this. And it's like, no. God wants me to be wealthy. It's like, this is why I'm I'm I'm getting these opportunities.
JClay:This is why so many things, but it was in there. And I I still don't even fully know how it got in there, but it's not in there anymore. And and there are other beliefs that have been coming up that I can't remember right now, but it's just like, that's crazy.
Troy Washington:I know. I I I love that you pointed that out, though, bro. Like because, again again, when I think about how we end up with that type of feeling or those, it's like, we feel like it's easier to subscribe to things that we don't want than it is to subscribe to things that we do want. Yeah. Like, it's easier for me to say, god doesn't want me to have this money right now because I can justify it in some way, form, or fashion but again, I go back to think about my kids and my kids don't think that they're broke at all.
Troy Washington:My kids literally think that they're rich. They think that we're rich And the reality of it is it has nothing to do with money. It has nothing to do with finances. It's literally their world is functioning in a way that makes them happy. And that's what we lose touch with.
Troy Washington:So, you know, I love the fact that you pointed that out because we, as adults, we'll subscribe to something because we feel like it makes things easier, but it doesn't. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. One thing that made me think of that we always talk about is, like, we were on the path with music, we had, like and it was it was so we we were surrounded by so many people doing music, trying to make it and stuff. And, truly, we were having the time of our lives. Like, of course, the goal was the the money, the success, all of that, but we were having the time of our lives. We didn't care about any of that.
JClay:But somewhere along the lines, we started to care too much about that, and it made the the actions not fun anymore. It made people slowly bow out one by one of the things that they truly love to do so much so that it's only a handful of us that that are still actively doing doing what we enjoy. And others like, man, I'm I'm trying to get back to it. And and this is not a knock on them. It's just sometimes we when we're not paying attention, we let our priorities shift toward a life that we never really asked for or agreed to having.
JClay:And what we're trying to do now is get you to to slowly shift back and and clear out all that clutter so you can then redesign your life. Because, again, your your wants and desires have changed. You have more life experience. You probably don't want what you wanted ten plus years ago, but you probably don't want what you have now either, even though there are some things in there that you would still appreciate. But but go ahead.
Troy Washington:Bro, I'm a tell you what you just made me think of. At least this is where my train of thought went. Our we had an a mindset of abundance. Right? Like, at at a time, there was a a mindset of abundance, and then there was a shift that happened that changed the amount of abundance we had.
Troy Washington:When we started thinking, oh, we gotta make a lot of money, everything changed. And, you know, the the the the funny part about it, bro, and this is this is what I know to be true for sure. Abundance brings more abundance. Like, abundance thinking brings more abundance. Now this is what I I remember.
Troy Washington:When we were before we had the shift where we had to make more money Yeah. We were put doing shows everywhere, and we didn't we weren't financial rich. We were love and happiness rich. Right? But everybody around us and again, I don't know if you've if you seen it the way that I saw it, but everybody around me thought that we were rich, like, financially rich.
Troy Washington:They were like, oh, they got a lot of money. And what ended up happening was we got shows that paid us money because people thought we already had money. We had people that came and put past that flyers for free for us because they thought we had money. So, all of these things were happening for us in our life because we had an abundance mindset of fun, love, and happiness, right? And then the moment when they shifted, it changed and there's tons of evidence, bro, because if you look at famous people, like, they get shoes and clothes free because, I mean, they don't even need it.
Troy Washington:You know what I'm saying? But because they are abundant thinking, even if they're crashing out and losing everything because what we perceive of them went in in the abundance mindset, it pulls everything in their favor, right? And and again, I felt that personally like every time where I felt like things even with my kids and playing sports, the more I feel great about my kids, the more I hear people talk about it. Or the more people be like, hey. You want your kid to come do this?
Troy Washington:Or it it's always more abundance. And then as soon as that lack sets in, that's when everything kinda derails. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah, man. That's so true. Like, and and the thing, like, like, that you pointed out about us being rich with with happiness and love, like, all the stuff that we're gonna buy anyway, people were giving to us. So it's it's not like it's it's not like it's it's worthless. You know what I mean?
JClay:Some people are like, well, it's still not money that you're getting. Like, no. We were gonna spend the money on the stuff that we were getting anyway, so it's the same exact thing. Like, even even trips, even, like okay. To answer the question that's on the screen, when was the time you felt abundant even when you didn't have much?
JClay:And we've talked about this so many times, but this is like I feel like this is the the master key to unlock everything. So Troy came down here from Arlington, or maybe you stayed in Fort Worth at the time. This was maybe 2008 or 02/2010. And we had worked on some music, but then we had nothing to do. You know?
JClay:We were just like, what we gonna do? So he said, let's just go to the Galleria. And the Galleria Mall in Houston is like a a mall where they have luxury stores and everything. It's a it's a huge mall. But at least back then, it was, you know, it was that place where, you know, celebrities would go, all that stuff.
JClay:Now so we was like, yeah. Let's just go there, walk around. We put on our our shirts that repped our record label. And we were just walking around like we was the we was them people. We was them dudes.
JClay:And, like, we weren't doing anything. Nothing at all. We just walking. Everybody's just looking at us. Everybody's just like, man, who are they?
JClay:And we just walking. And so we went to this, like it wasn't a store. It was like a pop up store. It was a pop
Troy Washington:up. Yeah.
JClay:Yeah. It was like a pop up, and it was a Ed Hardy pop up. And that's when Ed Hardy was was big. Everybody's trying to get Ed Hardy clothes. And we just walked in there as we walked out.
JClay:And the guy was like, oh, hold up. Who are y'all? And we're like, like, how do you answer that? You know what I mean? But but he was just like, man, these dudes are somebody.
JClay:So we told him we do this. He was like, hey. I've been looking for we we were trying to find something to do tonight. Like, you know any club people and stuff? We happen to because we pushing our music, so we know all the DJs, all that.
JClay:So we told him, he was like, yeah. We wanna do a promo. So he ordered bottle service. He he just doing it big, and we're looking like we bigger stars than we are because we're not gonna pay for no bottle service or at least not then. We still not.
JClay:But even if even if we woulda had it, that's just not our our style. But we living it like it is, thus adding to the persona that people thought we was rich. And then not only that, the next day, he said, come back to the store, get whatever you want. And he meant, like, we leaving with bags of clothes. It's it it was crazy, but but go ahead.
Troy Washington:But and and, again, maybe I'm tripping, but I thought okay. Because I remember we got bags of clothes the next day. But that day, I believe we walked out with clothes that day. We did. Like like, we walked into the mall, wouldn't spending money on anything, but again, we I I think key here, Jay, though, is we did feel like we were having fun.
Troy Washington:We did feel like we were those people. We did have a a mindset of abundance. It was like, we we we them. Right? And that was with no money.
Troy Washington:And so it translated. And again, we walked out of store with Ed Hardy clothes, brand new, didn't pay for anything because of the mentality and you know, again, it it's it's it's funny even as we're talking it and reliving it. I I just think about the shift and you know, how those shifts happen and it's all, again, it's all things on the outside of us because the inside of us is what led us to feel and move the way that we were moving and the outside you know, the the the mindset of lacking and and I talked to my kids about envy. Not to say that I envied anybody at the time but there was maybe an envy of circumstances that I may have felt somewhere that changed the whole dynamic of what I was feeling at the time. But man, you you you hit the nail on the head with that one, bro.
Troy Washington:And I want to read what Robert Clay said. He said, one of the things I say during my daily meditation is, I appreciate the facts of life from the highest point of view. Man, I I love that. You know? Appreciate the facts of life from the highest point of view.
Troy Washington:Go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And and and and to say one more thing too about the the story and and what you were saying, in that moment, I didn't want anything. Like, I I really didn't want like, I really felt like I had the world at my disposal. Like, straight up, I I don't even know how to explain that because I don't know if I've ever felt just that confident or just whatever. It was just like, no.
JClay:I'm I'm good. I I am that dude. And it was and the the stuff that transpired around it was just crazy. Like, man, this is this is wild.
Troy Washington:No. No, bro. This is how I know for a fact you didn't want anything, and I know for a fact I didn't want anything. Because when he told I don't know if you remember this. When he told us we can have what we wanted in the store, we didn't even know what to get.
Troy Washington:We bro, we walked around that store. We was like, I don't even know what to get. You you I'm like, we literally didn't it's not like we walked in the store. It's like, man, if I could get this Ed Hardy, like, we we didn't even feel like that. It wasn't nothing that we eyed.
Troy Washington:It was literally like, let's see what this is. And then we walked out. And then he told us we can have what we wanted and we didn't even know what to pick. I think you picked the jacket that day or something and it it was just like
JClay:It was good.
Troy Washington:Okay. Cool. Yeah. Real talk. Shout out to shout out to Ed Hardy, bro.
JClay:But yeah. But but but that's that's a a masterclass in manifesting. Like, they say be who you wanna be. And it wasn't even that we were faking it. Like, we were who we wanted to be in that moment.
JClay:And there have been times where and you yeah. Usually, when I feel my brokeest, I'm not being the me I wanna be. Like, I'm I'm I'm either shying away from it. I'm making excuses. I'm I'm believing in something I shouldn't be believing in.
JClay:Like, I I can really attest that to my level of income. And it's it's cool too having these realizations and expanding on every level. And it this doesn't even work if even if you're broke. Like, even if you have a lot of money and you wanna get to the next level or or even if it's not about money, you have ideas and you wanna get to the next level of of bringing that idea out. Like, be the person that will bring that idea out and forget everything else.
Troy Washington:You know, another example that I could think of, bro, is, you know, for everybody that don't know, we are you know, we fast, you know, on occasion. You know what I'm saying? I guess I would say a higher frequency than the average person. So we always go through these fasts. And, you know, every single time that I fast, one of the things that I'm always telling myself is that I'm full.
Troy Washington:I'm good. I'm sustained. You know what I mean? But the reality, what happens is, bro, everywhere I go, I can go into a restaurant. I can go anywhere.
Troy Washington:People are always trying to give me food free. They're always trying to, it, it, it just, it, it, it feels like food is just following me where I go. It's crazy. And it it it it it's it's to me, it shows, it's proof that, you know, when with that mindset, that fullness mindset, everything is always at my disposal if I if I appreciate it and I and I put my mind in the right place. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. That's true, man. Like, the the the person that truly feels they have everything, everyone is gonna try to give them everything
Troy Washington:else. Everything.
JClay:And and you don't even care if you receive it or not. You don't even care to accept it. And that and it's it's a beautiful thing. So so, yeah, so so I would say the precursor to that, which we talked about is, again, knowing what you want, knowing who you wanna be. Write it out.
JClay:See, like like, write the scenario for it so you can act it out, so you can practice it when you're alone so that when you're in that space, you can just do it or fill your heart with that confidence and just start being that start showing up every day as that person.
Troy Washington:But how do I show up every day as that person if I don't know how, Jay? Like, how do I I mean, I hear you saying that we gotta appreciate things, and we gotta take account of all these things. And, I mean, I can take account of stuff, but that doesn't mean that I'm gonna see it the way that I'm supposed to because I don't know how to appreciate, you know I don't know how to appreciate that. And I I think that's, you know, a big question here, but, you know, what's your thoughts on that?
JClay:So let's look at let's look at actors. Right? You know, they they're taking action. They're they're being active. They're becoming someone else.
JClay:One of the things that they do to prep is they run lines. They run lines with each other. Run lines like like, what would the you that you wanna be, how would you think? What would you say to somebody in this situation? What would you think when this circumstance comes up?
JClay:Like, run lines with yourself. Not only that, they actors will sometimes investigate the role, be amongst the people whom they are trying to emulate. Like, if if someone has a role of a a army sergeant or something, like, they might go through boot camp they've never been in the army before so they can just get a better sense of what to do. Like, start to be amongst the people. Make an excuse to to be amongst who you want to be like.
JClay:And and and and do it like do you can do it as an outsider, or you can do it as someone that's trying to blend in to see if they'll even notice. Because a lot of times, they won't notice if you show up as that person already and put your best foot forward. So I would say just start with what's in your mind right now because you have enough to at least write it out and formulate who you wanna be and how you wanna be.
Troy Washington:I'll tell you this, and this is what I do personally. And I I wanna say that I am great at this now. I am great great at this. I told you before, one of the things that I used to do in the morning, I started doing, and it took me a it took me a while to, like, literally grasp it, but the first thing I would say before I got out of bed was I'm amazing. And I would just keep saying it over and over again.
Troy Washington:But I I even went a step further and I hadn't told you about it. But this is what I what I do now is every single day when I I still say I'm amazing. But before I even say that, I say, thank you for another day. Thank you for another day. And then once I say that and I I I'm appreciative of just being able to open my eyes.
Troy Washington:Now mind you, for you for this to be the first thought in your head when you wake up in the morning, it takes time. Because before, I I remember my routine. I would get up and I would grab my phone or I would it it was just a whole bunch of randomness. It wasn't it wasn't it wasn't about me being appreciative. Right?
Troy Washington:And so in time, I was still getting up and I was getting distracted, but I would stop myself and just be like, no, man. Thank you for another day. And, man, you amazing. You amazing. You amazing.
Troy Washington:And so what ended up happening was, now, like I said, it's like clockwork now. Every single time my eyes open, it's like, man, thank you for another day. I am amazing. And so what that what that did for me was now, if if there was any lack mindset or mentality in my mind, it's automatically erased. Because how can I feel lacking when I'm so grateful that I'm even up?
Troy Washington:And so I think that what's important and, again, I know that this this wasn't easy for me to master, and I think that I mastered it now. Right? Open my eyes, man. I'm grateful. It takes time, and you have to set your appreciation level high before you do anything else for the day.
Troy Washington:But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And I I wanna shout out what what tip tipsy pics said on Instagram. When you write your true desires out, it comes true. Real talk. Yeah.
JClay:And I yeah. I'm I'm I'm with that. And and, again, like, it is it is a it is a energy thing. Like, you you get it out of you. Even if even if you gotta type it, like, I'm a big typer.
JClay:Sometimes I write stuff out too. I got a friend like, no. You gotta write it. If you type it, it's not the same. I so I I do both from time to time when it's when I feel it's important enough.
JClay:Like, let me let me let me get all this to to help it out. But anything you can do to put yourself in that frame of mind. And I I love that you do that, what you said, Troy, about waking up affirming it because that that start of your day is everything. Like, when you when you start off wrong, it's just like, some people say, did you wake up on the wrong side of the bed? It it's the saying because sometimes, like, that that initial wake up is everything, which also too, if you find yourself in a rut and you don't know how to get out, go take a nap.
JClay:Just take a quick nap so you can wake up on the right side of the bed.
Troy Washington:But and and, again, just kinda going back into what I was saying, bro, like, when I wake up like that, I don't even know what happened yesterday. I don't even know what's happening today. Only thing I know in that moment is appreciation. And so when you like, when you, again, I I'm not saying that, you know, yesterday doesn't disappear in real life. Right?
Troy Washington:Today, what's to come doesn't disappear in real life. But when the only thing in my mind is not envy or lack or wanting and it's literally just, man I I have the world right now. Now what can I do with this? I don't know. I have to create.
Troy Washington:I have from this point I have to create. But I have a blank slate. I can't even tell you the amount of me knowing what I could do have changed. Again, I can wake up broke but because I'm appreciative of the day, I know that I can go and get financial dollars from anywhere, some kind of way because I didn't wake up on the wrong side of the bed. Me feeling like the world is against me.
Troy Washington:Because if you wake up with the world against you, then that scarcity thinking, that lack is going to be the most dominant thing in your life. It's the thing that the the biggest hurdle you gotta overcome before you can even start to think about what you can do to alleviate whatever that Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And and I I I will say that because you I I know you said the the real world doesn't disappear. I would even challenge I would say that it does. Like, every time you go to sleep, the world disappears, and every time you wake up, it reappears. Yet you are we are rebringing the world back, recreating it in our image every time we wake up.
JClay:Now unless we are proactive and decide, okay. This is how I wanna make this day a little bit different than the day before, then whatever whatever is our frequent thoughts or the frequency that we're vibrating at, that's how the day is gonna be. That's gonna be the things we attract. So with the writing it down, with the practicing it, running lines with yourself, you put yourself in a mindset like, oh yeah, I'm making this shift. I'm changing this belief.
JClay:This is how I act now. I'm not going to act as I did before with a scarcity mindset. I'm going act this way. Like like you like like Troy, there was a time where I don't wanna say you didn't wake up. I I don't I don't wanna say that you woke up and you weren't great.
JClay:Like, that was never the case. But there was a time when you didn't truly recognize your greatness. And now that you do it, it changes everything because there's nothing you can't conquer. There's nothing you can't achieve since you started your day off that way. And so you made sure that when you create the world to on this day, you add that element to it.
JClay:And so let's not forget the things that we want because we know what we want, and we also know where we stand in reference to that, and we just start needing to to mend the two so we can be who we wanna be.
Troy Washington:Bro, you so shout out to you. Right? Because I I know exactly what you mean. And I I wanna tell people you can give yourself a point of reference because the reality of it is I woke up broke on the wrong side of the bed, and I've woke up broke on the right side of the bed. And waking up broke on the wrong side of the bed came with way more luggage than I could carry than I wanted to carry.
Troy Washington:That's where that weight starts to eliminate and put boundaries on where you can go. And so when you talk about scarcity thinking, there there's no that's all about boundaries. That's all about limitations. Right? But when I've woken up broke on the right side of the bed, being unlimited, limitless, I woke up and said, man, thankful for the day.
Troy Washington:I'm amazing. And the next thing that I thought was, I'm finna go get this bread. And there was no hurdle in front of me. It was just, I'm a figure it out today. And, again, if if if you if you start to earmark these moments, like, well, if I I've already been feeling like this this whole time, let me try feeling like this and see the way that your steps are ordered depending on how you feel, you will be able to, you will be able to understand what I mean by that, but you have to give yourself the opportunity to see.
Troy Washington:Because if you're just wait if if if it's gonna be the same anyway, why not give yourself a chance? But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. So one thing that I I I want exercise I want people to try and just be mindful of that I've been doing is, like, when you okay. You know, some days, you know you have money coming. Like, let's say your your check gonna come Friday. You know it's coming.
JClay:It's not here right now, but you know it's coming. You act differently than if you don't have it right now and you don't know where your next check is coming. You act completely different. Right. But I want you to really take notice of how you're acting and what the difference is because then you can apply that even to when you don't know where it's coming from, and it can always add to the next.
JClay:You're like, man, I feel like I feel like it's coming. I know it's coming. Like, I I I know without a doubt this money gonna be here Friday, and you can start to apply that to the days that that you wouldn't have necessarily expected money, and it will be there.
Troy Washington:Bro, again, I I 100% agree. Because, again, talking about my truck, bro, the one thing that I I kept saying was I'm gonna get it's gonna come. It is going to come, bro. Like, and I didn't know how, but I didn't I didn't, you know, bog myself down with the thought process of that. I just kept saying that it was gonna come.
Troy Washington:And so the day when my boy said that much to me, bro, I told him. I said, you don't even know. And he told me, no, I do know. And I said, no, bro. You you don't even know.
Troy Washington:You know what I'm saying? And he was like, no, bro. I know. And and and it was just like, man, I I said, look, I literally just talked about this last weekend. I literally did.
Troy Washington:He was like, yeah. I mean, the re that's the reason why that mug is happening. And I said, I know. But
JClay:what you you you have
Troy Washington:nothing to lose is what I'm saying. You have nothing to lose in giving yourself that opportunity. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And and so you said too that you talked to him about it the weekend before, like, before he presented this to you. So that's one thing too. Like, when you when you're stepping into the person you are, you speak the things that are in your mind. You speak it and share with others.
JClay:And so that's where, you know, the magic can happen because it's all a part of you. Your aura, your thoughts are aligned. You're speaking. Your actions are aligned. But if you didn't think that it would happen, you probably wouldn't have spoke up.
JClay:You you or you probably would have said a sob story or something. You know? Like, you would have been like, yeah. This this is like this, and that that energy is not creative. That that energy is, like, is draining almost because it there's no optimism in it.
JClay:There's no love in it. It's just, like, somberness. I don't I don't wanna be around that. But when you see people that's like, man, they they're appreciative. What can I do to help?
JClay:And you might not even ask yourself that consciously, but it's it's just something about you wanna help people who are in that state, and they are they they cross paths with you in a way that you know that you can help them.
Troy Washington:You know, funny is I've seen this, and I and, again, these are things that I I I watch kinda closely whenever I come across them. But when people post specific stuff on social media sites, whether it be Instagram or Facebook, And, you know, somebody broadcast a hard time. Right? What I've seen people respond to people is they'll put prayer hands up, praying for you. You're gonna, you know, you're gonna get through this.
Troy Washington:But then I also seen people say, I this this past week, somebody it was I think it was my friend I don't wanna call her name at it. But she she claimed something. She was like, I'm going to be this in the next year. And flooded. Her feed was like, done.
Troy Washington:You did that mug already. You're already there, and I can just imagine the the side conversations or what might be even presented to her that we can't see because the tune of abundance from everybody was apparent, right? Versus the the tune of of I don't I don't know what I don't want to say sadness but it is sadness. Yeah. You know what
JClay:I'm saying?
Troy Washington:Like sadness or sympathy. Sympathy and empathy which doesn't necessarily breed moving forward, right? Like, being sympathetic and empathetic is just understanding but versus some, you, you, you posting something showing lacking and just getting empathy and sympathy from somebody versus you claiming something and everybody giving you the motivation to to go or knowing that you have it already and again, it just shows you that the world reacts according to how you present it And Yeah. So do you. Go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And you know me, I I I got it a line in one of my songs. I'll always give you praise. I will never give you sympathy. Really?
JClay:Sympathy, it doesn't do anything for anybody. I I know it I I know why people think it is because it's like, you know, they it's a it's a call for love, and they want they they think that receiving sympathy is a good substitute for that love, but it's like, nah. Don't don't even allow that to be. Like, just be the love you want to be and receive it. Same way we're saying be the be that person you wanna be.
JClay:Be that that rich self or or wealthy self or successful self. Like, be that love that you wanna be, and it will be reciprocated. That's how the world works. Like, it it's it's almost like it bends to your will. You you create at the level of your frequency.
JClay:You create by at the level of your your beliefs and your knowing, and everything has to has to show itself to you for what you are.
Troy Washington:And and I would say this to piggyback on what you said because I agree with you a 100%. And I would also say that all things are a call for love based off how you love yourself. So if you are if you would see yourself in a sympathetic place or an empathetic and you love that feeling, then every that call for love is what but the reality of it is that might not be what you want. That just might be what you're in love with right now. And again, if you're in love with progress, progression, uplifting, joy, you're going to receive and when you put things out, it'll be presented as such.
Troy Washington:And that call will reflect exactly what you're in love with. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. So you're right. Like, it's it's either love or a call to love. So if somebody's showing you, like, animosity or angst or whatever, just call for love. You can meet it with love.
JClay:The love is returned. And that's that's with everything. So whenever we have those those scarcity thoughts, we're we're presented with scarcity. I mean, it's like the it's it's giving us that instant gratification, but it's like but it's also an opportunity because it's a call for abundance. It gives us that opportunity to switch our thoughts ever so slightly and hold that in our mind so that, like, yeah, I don't I don't believe that there's lack of anything.
JClay:I mean, just look at the look at the world. Everything there there are multiples of everything in the world. Like, nothing in the world is single. You can look at everything, even the planet. There are multiple planets in our universe, multiple stars, multiple everything.
JClay:You look at grass, it's billions of blades of grass, like, in the world. Like, everything is abundant. So it's no reason for us to believe, in scarcity even though people might try to push it down our our throats. Like, you you gotta take care of this opportunity because if you miss it, that's it. Like, no.
JClay:Like, you be be who you are, and you're gonna attract the essence of who you are.
Troy Washington:And, again, that's why I'm gonna say this again so that way I'm clear. People I'm I'm gonna use grind as the example. There was a time when every time you talked to me, it was grinding because I love the thought process of grinding. I love the thought process of what I thought you would think of me if I was grinding. So, I wasn't trying to get people to say, keep grinding but because that's what I was in love with, people kept telling me, keep grinding.
Troy Washington:I have a cousin. It's always something wrong. He always wants to share that. He loves the feeling of people telling him everything is going to be alright. So, therefore, because he loves that, that call for love is going to be there.
Troy Washington:That that's your your call for love is being empathetic and sympathetic. So, what you're telling people is, this is what I love and so because that's what you love, they're gonna give you exactly what you love. That's your call. And so if that's not what you want, if you want your call for love to be, somebody give me something free. Right?
Troy Washington:Like, I, look, there was a time when people was doing coupon stuff all the time. I remember my wife did it. Everybody was doing it, right? And Clay did it and just think about you, Jay Clay, and I tell you my wife because I was falling in love with it because of the mindset of thinking about saving money. So, because of that, what I saw every feed, every social media site was coupon is, seeing ads that were coupon is because I was in love with that process.
Troy Washington:She was in love with that process and people was coming to her to the woodwork. You need to holler at this person. You need to meet them here. All these different things because your call for love was what you were attached to at that moment And so the world presented it to you in a way that nobody else saw it. And so when you change what it is that you're in love with, think about what you're in love with.
Troy Washington:Think about what you love. Watch how everything else follows. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And and I wanna say too, like, of course, certain things people are like, man, I don't I don't love pain. I don't love strife. I don't I don't love these things. But the fact that you're, you know, giving it that much attention means that on some level, you do love it.
JClay:And if you don't, it's like, why why even give it that attention? There's no love there. You know, you want more love. Don't go go where more love is. Be where more love is.
Troy Washington:Real talk. Real talk. So, man, we at the end, and I know we haven't got to say this throughout the show as much as we need to, but I want you to understand that you are perfect. And, you know, even if you are challenged here, which we all are at some point, I've been challenged here. I started out by telling you how scarcity thinking has had me has changed my life in ways and then also changing the way that I thought about that changed it back or moved me in a direction that was more for me.
Troy Washington:But understanding your way now is fine. Right? And if you wanna change your way, you can do that too and that's gonna be fine. You don't have to do it like anyone else. You don't have to wake up in the morning and say, thank you for another day.
Troy Washington:I just told you for myself, in order for me to get out of the mindset of scarcity, I had to be appreciative of right now. And so what I challenge and I and I encourage everybody to do is remember that, number one, you are perfect. And if you are not perfect, it's only because you're not doing what you wanna do. And if you can change it at any time, why not today? Jay, you can go ahead and take us up out of here, man.
JClay:Yeah. Appreciate everybody that rocked with us on this Sunday. We're here almost every Sunday at noon central time. Yeah. Catch us, like, subscribe, comment.
JClay:Appreciate all the commenters today. You don't realize it, but you are part of this conversation. You keep it going. We do appreciate you. And, yeah, just remember, you're a perfect creation made by a perfect creator, so you might as well accept your perfection and enter perfect mode.
JClay:Yeah. Yeah. I reminded you that you are perfect, would you argue me down or step into your perfection? To perfect tomorrow. Welcome to perfect tomorrow.
JClay:Where there are no excuses, no expectations, and we explore the world without limitations. I'm Jay Clay, rapper, the spiritual teacher, my cohost Troy Washington, your friendly neighborhood realtor. Let's be real. So let's be perfect. Perfect.
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