S5E28: Stop Wishing for a Better Life - Start Living It Right Now
If I reminded you that you are perfect, you argue me down or step into your perfection? To perfect tomorrow. To perfect tomorrow. Where there are no excuses, no world without limitations. I'm Jay Clay, rapper, the spiritual teacher, with my cohost Troy Washington, your friendly neighborhood realtor.
JClay:Let's be real. So let's be perfect. Let's be perfect. Perfect. Perfect.
JClay:Perfect.
Troy Washington:Yep. What up? What up? It is yours truly. Troy Washington, your friendly neighborhood realtor, and I have my boy JClay, spiritual rapper and teacher.
Troy Washington:And welcome to perfect mode. And today, we're about to talk about stop wishing for a better life. But before we get into that, I gotta start I gotta start by telling y'all that we love y'all. We're grateful for the opportunity to be anywhere, sharing our thoughts, and hopefully helping you realize that you are perfect. What up, Jay?
JClay:Yo. Yo. Happy day. Happy Sunday to all my perfect people out there in perfect land ready to talk about why you should stop wishing for a better life and start living it right now.
Troy Washington:Yeah. Right now. When?
JClay:Yeah. When? Right now.
Troy Washington:Right now. What up, man? So, you know, I know I switched it up on you a little bit today, but I had to because when you hit that year, you know what I'm saying, waiting for that that pause, it I was like, let me go ahead and just hit it. But it's all good, though. You know how we do things.
Troy Washington:And, you know, I guess my my first thought when I saw this and, of course, you know, had a lot of thoughts that, you know, stop wishing for a better life, start living it right now. But I wanna know what were you thinking when you first saw this topic.
JClay:Man, just what it says, man, because I noticed at times I do wait for stuff. Like, I I I I like having it perfect. I have this vision in my head like, oh, once I get this, I'm a do this. K. I got this piece.
JClay:Let me get this piece. And at the same time, though, it's it's a how do I say this? It's the the opposite of the recognition that you have everything you need. It's like it's like almost not being fully trusting of the moment, thinking that you're lacking something. But, you know yeah.
JClay:So in a sense, that that, that wishful thinking is is believing you're in lack when actually you have everything you need now to make it to the next step. And when you're ready for whatever the thing you might have thought you lacked, it will present itself, when it's the right time.
Troy Washington:So I'm a tell you what's crazy about this topic. So so number one, I agree with you about timing and, allowing allowing the process to move along without you feeling like there's additional things that you need in order for you to actually take action. So I I agree with that 100%. But this is the craziest thing about my life, bro. I mastered this in some realm that I don't.
Troy Washington:And so what I mean by that is I already have the mentality to stop wishing for a better life in this specific field, and I'll start doing things without even hesitating. I don't worry about what I feel like is a prerequisite for me to have. I don't worry about having to deal with other people before. Some stuff, it's just that my mind is made up. Yeah.
Troy Washington:And the craziest part about it is those things that my mind are made up on, when I sit back and I look at whatever response or whatever I'm getting, always happy. I'm always like, dang. I'm glad I didn't wait or I didn't hesitate. But then there's also these other things in my life that I have put all of these prerequisites in front of me, and I feel like I gotta have this stuff and the the, I guess, the disconnect here. And and I'm just talking about me personally is, you know, how am I how do I institute this way of thinking to everything that I do?
Troy Washington:And I think that we all kind of have the same mentality as me because, you know, there are some things that we are overly confident, and I mean that in the most positive way. You should be overly confident in everything. And we don't feel like we feel like we are the the main tool or the main ingredient. But the reality of it is we're always the main tool. We're always the main ingredient.
Troy Washington:But go ahead,
JClay:Well, see, I I would even say, like, even overly confident in a sense could be overcompensating, like like, believing that confidence is not enough, thus kinda creating that lack by even doing that. So, like but but to your point, yes, like, there there are areas that we're confident in. Like, no matter what's going on, you know, we can step right in, do what we do because that's what we do. That's who we are. That's what we exude to the world.
JClay:Yet there are other areas that, for whatever reason, maybe if we believe in experience, we might say, I'm not experienced enough to handle this. Or if we believe in ageism, for example, we might say, I'm not old enough to have done this yet or to to run this team or something. Like, it it it's so many things that that we'll bring to limit ourselves in other areas instead of just letting that that confidence be who we are and just let that be the the standpoint or that that belief in ourselves be that that thing that starts everything, the the thing the person that you know the most and trust yourself with that, and it can translate to everything. But, again, like like you said, I'm the same way. I'm I'm finding places where I'm not translating these ideals into other spaces, and it's like, why not?
JClay:I know I can do this. This is what I do.
Troy Washington:So and and then what's crazier even crazier about it, as I'm thinking this through while we're talking about it, the word win, the the the context of doing things is such a crazy thing. And, again, I'm just using a personal experience in order to express what I'm saying. So as an example, you know, I'm a real estate broker. For everybody that doesn't know, I sell houses. And I guess this applies to anybody that's an entrepreneur.
Troy Washington:And it it's the simple our biggest job, the biggest thing that we have to do is get customers. Our our biggest focus is who is the next person that I can help that I can assist achieving their goal? And, you know, one big part of that is advertising. And so, you know, there is a a time period that I normally go through where I'll just start doing, you know, videos or doing things to express, hey. Let me help you.
Troy Washington:And then there's also times where I'd be like, well, when this happens, as if the task at hand has changed, it's always get another customer. There is not any prerequisite for me to go out and ask somebody if I can help them. Right? But I'll say, well, you know what? I just did a video last week.
Troy Washington:When I get a thousand views this video. And then there's this crazy amount of time that I may where sometimes it might come fast. Sometimes I might months. But in the grand scheme, all I had to do was talk to somebody today in order to facilitate what I'm trying to facilitate. And, again, it's just that win thing.
Troy Washington:You're giving yourself prerequisites that don't necessarily have to be there in order for you to progress. And I use that as an example, but I'm talking about all things in life. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. At first, when you said the win thing, I was thinking like w I n, but you mean w h e n.
Troy Washington:I I I got you. Yeah.
JClay:And what's perfect about this so I I I heard an an analogy that resonated with me about what you were saying. And they said, like, some people might say, when I lose the weight, I'll eat right and start exercising. Real time. You know? Right.
JClay:And there's a strong belief system that those are the only two ways that you can actually, you know, lose weight and and everything. And so it's it's interesting, though, like, how everything also it plays together. Like, the the change you want is the change you're willing to give at the same time. You know what I mean? Like, it's it's the it's the action you're willing to give.
JClay:Like, if you have faith that this action will add to something in your in your world or will lead you closer to the the life that you want, take that action. Like, why delay? Like like, we always talk about if you knew you can go down the street and pick up a million dollars, what what's gonna stop you from going down the street? Even if it's raining, you don't care. Even if you don't have a ride, man, I'm I'm going down street because I yeah.
Troy Washington:If it's if I know it's there and and that's the craziest part about the I like I I'm glad that you said this for a couple reasons. Because for everybody that's in this for the money game, the money is right down the street. The the reality of it is we don't believe that it's right down the street, so we don't wanna walk. So that's a whole another thing. Right?
Troy Washington:But even going back to the the workout example that you used and and, bro, you know, for this entire year, I made my I made a goal for myself that said, you know, I'm gonna work out thirty minutes a day well, thirty minutes four times a week no matter what, but I have been working out for thirty minutes a day every day. Now funny part is I told myself when I get in shape, I'll start doing my push ups. It's the craziest thing. Right? And and and that's the reason why I love the analogy that you use.
Troy Washington:But, also, you you know, it's it's a domino effect because now I'm saying, okay. Well, when I get in shape, I'll start to do push ups. Then I say, well, when I start doing push ups, I'll start doing this. And then I think about even to the point that you're making, there's nothing wrong with me initiating my world that way right now. So I'm only giving myself situation, I guess I'll call it, because the reality of it is all these things I would love to have right now.
Troy Washington:I would love to have them all right now. But what I'm doing is I'm creating a world where I'm unhappy when I literally could just actually take the steps instead of putting that win in front of it. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. Something that came to me when you were talking was, like, I I think I understand why we wait, so to speak. Right? It's because well, at least for me that that I'm I'm seeing now is let's say I I know what I want. Right?
JClay:But for whatever reason, I've listened to other people, and I'm like, oh, no. You can't do this now. You gotta do this. So you start doing this other thing. And then now it becomes hard work because, I mean, work work is fun.
JClay:It can be fun, but now we start associating all work with hard work. And it's like, man, I don't wanna do all this because it doesn't give you the rewards you want. Like, the the reward system with that is later, you'll get the reward. But if it's something you love doing, you actually get the reward now. Just in the act of doing it, you already get your reward.
JClay:So what happens is, like, at least in my case, there have been spurts where I went super hard on stuff I didn't wanna do. And because of that, now that there are things that I wanna do that seems like it's gonna, you know, acquire even more effort than than most, it's almost like, I'm not ready to jump into that right now because it's just a lot of work. Even though me and you, we talk about how we used to sell in Miami and do all this stuff, which is a lot of work, but it wasn't a lot of work. It was fun because we were passionate about it. Like, we got the reward instantly both monetarily and just in the experience that we gained from it.
JClay:Yet we when we are looking forward, we're also looking back. Like, man, I did it this way, and I and and it's like, no. Just just jump in there. Swim. Jump in the pool.
JClay:Just start swimming. Like, you you good. You gonna make it to the next place. You gonna stay afloat. Like, you're gonna some somebody's gonna come around with a boat if you need a boat.
JClay:Like, just just start on that journey. But, yeah, go ahead.
Troy Washington:And that's what this is what's funny about this. So, again, I'm I'm a talk about my own journey and the waiting and also using other people's processes in or in mind, which in turn turns it into jobs that you don't want. So you know recently because we've been talking about this and, you know, for everybody that's tuning in, if you, you know, you love the material that we provide, please like, share, and subscribe. You can go to our YouTube channel, which you you probably are right now if you're not if you're not on the other sites. But but to that point, Jay, so in December December '20 eighth, I wanna say that's the first date.
Troy Washington:Well, let me kinda give you some history. I've been recording my kids since they I have a a 13 year old right now and a seven year old. And, essentially, I had all of this this material, this content in my phone, and I would upload it every once in a while. But when you get so many video, you literally it just starts to become, you know, more than you really wanna handle at some point. Right?
Troy Washington:And so what ended up happening was I stopped uploading for a long time. My phone got full. So December 28, I said, I made a commitment to myself. I said, no. No matter what, I'm a upload this many videos a month.
Troy Washington:There was no no because the reason why I stopped doing it is was because there was a prerequisite that was set in between the time that I was at and the time that I started doing it again. Everything had to be story based, meaning I had to upload it. I had to edit it. I had to do all of these different things that made it very treacherous, I'll say, work. It was it was tough.
Troy Washington:Just thinking about it made my head hurt. You know what I'm saying? And so when I decided to start uploading in December, I said, I don't care. It don't have to be story. I'm just gonna upload everything.
Troy Washington:As the day what I will do is I'll put the date and I'll just upload it. And so I didn't have any problem doing it. I just started every day. I said, okay. I'm a do 27 a day.
Troy Washington:Okay. I'm a do 10 a day. And it became something less strenuous than what was before. So what ends up happening was now my initial mindset in doing all the videos was eventually people will pick up on this stuff, and it'll blow up and lie, whatever. Right?
Troy Washington:Well, people were never looking at the videos when I was putting all that time into it. When I started uploading everything, before I know it, we had, like, you know, 10,000 views, 20,000 views. And so I'm like, dang. Okay. Well, I shouldn't have had all of the prerequisites.
Troy Washington:But here's the catch to this mug. Right? I start looking at videos on YouTube about, okay. Well, let me see how I can expand this. Let me see how I can make this better.
Troy Washington:Let me do all of these different things. Right? And so then I'm still uploading videos, but every other video I try to do a test, let me add this stuff to it. Let me do all these different things. And the craziest thing that blows my mind is those don't do as well short term as the ones that I would just upload.
Troy Washington:And it it's it's a funny thing. And so if you imagine me saying, let me add these things, but I'm not gonna upload them until this happens, it's another stick in the process that slows you down, and there's that win that will make you not wanna do it again. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. I I love that because so I and I know this is something you've wanted to do for a while. Like, you've always talked about your videos. You wanna upload them. And I and I know sometimes, like, even hearing your story, your success story on YouTube, you blowing up.
JClay:Again, he showed me the numbers, everything. It is easy to wanna be like, man, what did you do? Let me do exactly what you did. But the thing is you already knew what you needed to do. Just like from my what I'm doing, I already know what I need to do.
JClay:Real tight. Whoever's watching this, you already know what you need to do. Need to do. But for whatever reason, we put a roadblock. We said, oh, they maybe we should look at their path because their path seems better, and it seems to be working.
JClay:No. Their path is working for them because they're following their inner guy. They're following what they knew they should have done all along, And that's the main thing that we we need to relisten to. Like, let not to say you don't have to that you can't listen to others, but your voice, your inner voice should be the loudest, should be the most clear because it's your higher self. It's the god within you speaking to you.
JClay:And whenever we ignore that, like, we we make things harder for ourselves that don't have to be.
Troy Washington:I'm a tell you what's funny about it. And and I I love the fact that you keep phrasing, use your inner voice. Because the outer voice this this is the crazy thing. The outer voice tells you so many things, and that's the reason why you should know it's the outer voice. Because there are so many I don't even wanna call them conflicting.
Troy Washington:I would just say there's so many ideas that the outer voice is giving you. And, again, just from the simple standpoint of just uploading videos, and I I I think, okay. Well, I would love for this to blow up. Well, I would love for this. Well, I would love for this.
Troy Washington:Well, I would love all these different things. That's the thing that makes you deviate or take the fork in the road and do stuff that are not necessarily of you at the moment. But your inner voice will remind you. So when I sit back and think about it, I say, well, why do I want all of these videos uploaded? You know?
Troy Washington:That answer because there's a reason why I'm doing it. It can't be for all the stuff that I keep hearing the outer voice tell me. What is the real reason? Well, Dane, you have all of this because you wanted to create the memories for your for your kids. You want them to be able to look back at it.
Troy Washington:And now when you see get it, you're so happy just to see how much joy they have in remembering the things that they had. And so now my inner voice has told me the truth. So all of the other stuff that came along with it, it matters only for the outside of me, but it matter. But single time I upload a video, I get to go into my kids and say, hey. Did y'all see what I uploaded today?
Troy Washington:And those are the only views that really even make me feel the way that I needed to and me listening to the inner voice helped me get back into the process of just upload. Just upload. You know? But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:I love that. Because, again, like, you you get you get exactly what you want immediately. Like, you get that fulfillment immediately. Like like, another portion to this equation that I realized, like, even with myself that how I limited myself to things like this into believing in the outer voice is that when someone would come to me, like, back in the day with their idea, I would then try to in my mind, I'm thinking I'm helping them by presenting certain obstacles that they might face or that they need to prepare for. But, no, this I'm I'm believing in obstacles.
JClay:I'm believing in the stopping point. And now, like, if I see somebody that's just very joyous, just like they have that enthusiasm, like, man, I'm about to do this, just encourage. Like, even if I think something different, it doesn't matter because, like, they know exactly what they need to do. You can tell like you said, you you can tell you're listening to that voice if you're excited, if you're joyous. If you're if you're looking dreading it, you're not listening to the right voice.
JClay:You are somewhere else. You're listening to everybody at once. You have those conflicting thoughts that actually bring you down, and it's that clarity of that that one inside voice that's just like, man, this is the most beautiful sound I ever heard. I'm gonna listen. Let's go.
Troy Washington:Now I'm a tell you what I love about that too, about the encouraging words or versus giving obstacles that are your own obstacles to somebody to them. Right? And and the reason why I love the thought process of that is because this is the reality of it. When I'm talking about from my standpoint, my inner voice told me exactly what I'm trying to accomplish. It it it's clear to me.
Troy Washington:Make this for your kids, and you will see how happy you are. And instantly said, every time I upload something, there's a bit then the the the the counter things that happen for me are my phone gets empty, which also makes me happy. And so, hopefully, later down the line, maybe more views, and that also is gonna make me happy. But at the end of the those other things happen in time. And the one thing that happens instantly is my kids make are happy, which in turn makes me happy.
Troy Washington:Right? But, again, my internal voice has told made it clear for me. The reality of it is if you're advising me, you have no idea what my inner voice is. You have the same outer thought process that most people have. Oh, he's uploading these so that way he can build his channel and get views.
Troy Washington:Right? That's what most people would say. So we we we we buy into that. And so to the point, that's the reason why whenever I listen to a song that you send me, there's a a couple processes that I go to through before I say anything to you. The first thing that I tell myself is, I don't even know what you're trying to do.
Troy Washington:I don't even know what you're trying to convey. So now I can step back and say, okay. Well, instead of being a critique of it, just listen to it and see how it makes you feel. And if it makes you feel good, say it make you feel good. Say it's tight, but just leave it at that.
Troy Washington:And so I think that that's the part that we have to get is that I don't understand what your plan is. I don't understand what you're trying to do. And so the only thing you can do is tell me how you feel personally so that way I can see if I'm actually achieving whatever it is I'm trying to achieve.
JClay:But go ahead, Jay. Yeah. And and what's tight about all of this. Right? Like, even what you said and then even what you're doing with with YouTube is so a a lot of people, myself included, would think, okay.
JClay:I wanna put out videos. Let me learn about SEO. These are things I I I actually learned about because I wanna do things better. Let me learn about analytics. Let me learn about all of this.
JClay:But just from talking to you, what you've been telling me, because you are oh, wait. Wait. Let me let me back up. You already gotten way more views than you expected. So right off.
JClay:So you're you're you're already above and beyond, but yet because you're having so much fun taking the action that you knew you always should have taken, you're diving deeper into those things. You're you're watching content on how to develop better content. You're you're learning how to read the analytics and doing these tests that they say, like these split tests, AMV tests, all this stuff to see how to reach a broader audience. And it's like you're you're getting everything you wanted just by stepping into it and following that action, not waiting for something else, but just saying, you know what? This is what I have right now.
JClay:These are the resources I have available that I think I have available, and I'm just gonna take that step forward. And everything is responding to it in a positive way, which I love.
Troy Washington:And and and it goes to a point that you make all the time on this show, which is one of my favorite sayings of all times, things that you appreciate appreciate. Of of course, if I'm looking at YouTube all the time, and and I mean, intentionally, difference. If I you you know what? There's no difference. It's the same.
Troy Washington:Your intentions are always when you do anything. You just don't realize or recognize what your intentions are. So, I mean, if I get on YouTube to be entertained, I'm probably gonna be entertained. If I'm looking for specific to me, and I'm gonna see an abundance of them. But you're right.
Troy Washington:My intentions have changed whenever I get on it. So when I upload, now the next process is a bunch of stuff that helps me grow in ways that I may not be ready to approach yet, but it's things that I get to put in the back of my mind and process in a in a way to make me stop wishing to have wishing for a better life and start living it now. But, again, because my focus or my attention is there, you're right. All those other dominoes start to fall and fall into my lap. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. So okay. So so check this out. For those that don't know, I'm releasing an album this year, and the first single is dropping May 30. Now this single has been done for, like, maybe over a year, and and I've been getting everything else ready for the album.
JClay:But I kept pushing it back because I was like, I don't have the resources yet. Don't even know how I'm promoted this time. I don't know how I'm a do this. And then something is like, just go. Just start.
JClay:Pick a date. Mhmm. Just do what you can. And it's funny that things have been coming into place. Like, a a company is willing to promote me for in exchange for me looking at their system and and helping them optimize it or something.
JClay:Like, something I I I easily do, and I'm getting so much value for it. I I have some other resources came in out of nowhere, which didn't I didn't expect. And just so many things that are going by me taking the action to just go ahead and move forward even though I don't fully know what I can. I'm I'm still preparing for what I can prepare for, but it's only so much you can do. You can drive yourself crazy over preparing, over planning, even so much so that I thought, like, what if I had all the money at my disposal?
JClay:And I said, like, would I really spend it all on just promotions? I'll probably split it on other stuff. I'll probably be just doing other stuff with it. And it's almost like you'll never reach enough to to have things perfectly aligned with what you think. Like, you think you will, but when you think about it, it's like, well, I can do this, and then I can do that.
JClay:But right now, you are perfectly suited to do exactly what you need, what exactly what you want to do. You have everything you need to do what you want to do, and it's all divinely supported. You're divinely supported in it. And it's if we can remember that, there's no reason to ever wait again to to live the life we wanna live.
Troy Washington:Yeah. And and and, again, to that point, like, my question is why are we so afraid to just do that? Like, you know what I'm saying? Like, I wanna start a podcast, and I have computer. So that way you can't say your prerequisite is having computer.
Troy Washington:But even if you don't have a computer, right, this is what's funny about it. There are places that you can go and pay to podcast. So but I'm just saying, if I wanna start a podcast, what stopped just going to talk? Because when it comes to material, that's something that's in you. Right?
Troy Washington:And and some you might have to long form it so that way it can be structured in a way that you would like, but there's nothing stopping you. And the, again, the thought process will be like, well, maybe I need to have this this camera or maybe I need to have this mic or maybe I need to do all of these things. But for some reason, again, I know that a part of this is the way that we see other people's vision, the way we perceive that other people is going. But even when you have the idea, in most cases, you don't have that vision. So why do we allow that to tug us away from what we're supposed to be doing?
JClay:Yeah. Especially when even the idea of it brings us so much joy. Like, they I mean, and there have been times where I followed an idea to its end. Like, I'll I'll just start it, but then I once I'm in the midst of it, I'm like, okay. This is not for me, but I don't regret any of it because, like, the whole thing was a joy filled experience, and it's better than being on the I wonder side.
JClay:I I wonder. Like, that that's just something else to add on to to make you feel more heavy, to make you feel weighed down. And it's just like, I gotta I gotta find a way to do this and do that too and do that. I wanna do this too. Like, no.
JClay:You you're excited about something right now and explore it. Like like, it it will lead you to new friends. It will lead you to new people in your life even if you don't continue the action of the thing that that started. It could be just to get you to that next point. It could just be get to get you to that next destination.
JClay:And for whatever reason and I I don't I really don't even know why, we we talk ourselves out of what we enjoy. May maybe because we spend so much time in a space where we don't enjoy that it becomes home, that it becomes comfortable. And we say, well, I'll rather be here where I'm not happy just because I'm used to it. And it's like, no, man. Go go be happy.
JClay:Yo.
Troy Washington:And I and I'll say this too. Just to kinda reinforce why action is most important. At at least I feel like that anyway. But, like, the reality of it is when you can when you can voice something to somebody, an idea you already have it. And I wanna shout out to my my cousin Junior.
Troy Washington:You know, I went to a funeral yesterday. And when we left the funeral, you know, they do the, I think it's called a repast where you go and you eat dinner and all that kind of stuff and everybody kinda chill. And so my whole family's at this house, and, me and my cousin my cousin Junior, we just started talking about, you know, money stuff like, you know, real estate and, you know, financial stuff. And his dad walks by and said, oh, there go to money, guys. Now the reason why I'm expressing this is because I want the audience right now to realize that this kid's dad already looks at him as a financial expert.
Troy Washington:Right? This is how he's envisioned by the people around him. Not just his dad, but other people. He threw me in it too because he knows I'm in real estate, but I'm not around him all the time. I'm a part of the conversation.
Troy Washington:His the people around him, I've already deemed him a money person. So he sits down with me and he says, hey, Troy, man. I wanna talk to you about some ideas. Cool. You're a real estate.
Troy Washington:I know you can help me here. So he goes down this rabbit hole of explaining to me finance finances, commercial credit, and all stuff that, you know, I kinda went through before. So he he kinda goes through it. And he's telling me the play. Like, this is what I need to do in order to make it.
Troy Washington:Right? And I asked him yesterday. I well, I told him I said, well, let me explain something to you based off of my point of view. You're an entrepreneur, and entrepreneurs, our number one job is always to get customers. I understand that you feel like there's something else here that you need to plug in before you start to take action.
Troy Washington:But the reality of it is you just broke it all down for me right now. You just went through the whole process. But not only have you broke it down for me right now, you've actually gone through the process, received the funds, and you know how it works. But how many people have you told? How many people are you your dad already then came by and said, we the money people, so obviously, you didn't told him.
Troy Washington:The reality of it is you're hesitant to move forward because you feel like there's something you're missing. And you wanna retire by 45, and this is this is what he told me. He said, I wanna retire by the time I'm 45. And I said, that's the same dream that I had at 43 now. I said, the only thing is you're younger than me, and you're doing the exact same thing that I did.
Troy Washington:I did not move. You're still wishing instead of living, and you don't have any reason not to do that because you're already internal internally living it over and over again to the point where everybody recognizes it. And so I say that to say that when we know something, when we're able to express it, whether you have all the tools or the money, you're because the reality of it is when you actually know something enough, people would just give you the money. But, again, you don't allow that avenue for yourself. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Man. So when when you were saying that, I I I just thought of something that makes us wait. Right? So okay. Think about some of the stuff, the side quests you've done.
JClay:Like, you just did some stuff because you you were you were mildly excited about it. Like, oh, let me try this real quick. Oh, that's cool. This is you know? Yeah.
JClay:It's dope. Let me okay. I I did this. Go on to the next thing or go back to your main thing. The thing with the main thing, though, is, like, we put so much weight on it that we feel weighed down, so we wait.
JClay:We put so much weight on this main thing that we wait to do it because, really, it's hard to move with so much weight on. And when we lighten the load and not put not make this mean the weight of the world like, you know what I mean? Like like, there was times where I said, I gotta make it in music. Music is the only way. This is the way.
JClay:This this this has to bring me this. This gotta bring me that. It's gotta do that. And it it made it tough. It it made me more serious in it, and it's like, no.
JClay:This is a fun thing. I I love this because I don't have to be as serious in this area. But I had put so much weight on it that it was hard to even move and do anything. And we often do that with whatever our main thing is, whatever we deem is the most important thing. We shouldn't deem it the most important thing.
JClay:We should just deem it as another thing that we feel joy about in this moment that we're gonna pursue and and let it be that. And so now it's it's it's free to move with you. It's free to to carry its own weight, so to speak, and we won't have to wait any longer.
Troy Washington:So to your I would say, remember like, we like to we like to think that we're simple. Think about this. You got a whole body that functions without you even thinking. You're, like like but we like to think that we're so simple. We are complex.
Troy Washington:We are capable of multiple things, and our own body shows us that. And so I love the point that you're making when you say, like, stop making it have so much weight. Like, that's the only thing you're capable of. Imagine if you said, well, shoot. While my stomach is working, everything else stop working.
Troy Washington:You would just drop dead. Right? But the reality of it is when you allow yourself the opportunity to function in all these different areas, then they all start to work together. And that which you're just like your body, that which you're trying to accomplish holistically will come easier because you're allowing everything to play its role. And, again, bro, I'm gonna use me as the example.
Troy Washington:And, again, I'm I'm happy that we had the show, but I had made my decision even before the show. You know, for everybody that likes what we're doing because we love what we're doing, please like and subscribe the page. And the reason why I bring it up is because I'm about to talk about our YouTube page for perfect mode. We are consistently dropping the lives on YouTube, but I wanted to take it upon myself to start to do shorts because I feel like they'll bring us more attention because we love to help people. We love to get out, make sure our voices are heard, and we wanna make sure that y'all are able to take part in that with us.
Troy Washington:So, I told you Saturday, Jay Clay, that I was going to take the day and I was going to go through Opus, which is a a tool that we use to cut our clips, and I'm going to try to learn it. And so when I first got into Opus, I said, okay, cool. I see the credit stuff, but I didn't understand it, so I had to go through some tutorials. But I still didn't wanna use credits in in in experiment. Right?
Troy Washington:I want to make sure that when I you when I want to make sure when I use these credits, I wanna make sure y'all hear that. When I use these credits, they're not wasted as if I could waste credits because the whole point is put the material out. But I'm just showing you my process. And I said, when are you so what I said was, okay, cool. Let me do some test runs before I even use the perfect mode account.
Troy Washington:So I created my own account, and then I did custom clips of video that I had already did. And I said, okay. This is gonna be my test. I put the videos out. I did all the SEO.
Troy Washington:I did all this stuff that I don't need to do. Right? And I just watched the views. I I for the last since Saturday, maybe it was Friday was the day that I told you I was gonna do it. So Friday and Saturday, I just looked at the views on those specific ones in comparison to the stuff that I just been putting out.
Troy Washington:And so I just been waiting. And I've been thinking to myself, well, why is this like this? Why are these not moving the way that the other one's moving? Is it too dark? I and I'm going through all of these different processes trying to figure out so that that way when I figure it out, I can put it to perfect week and then make it do what it do.
Troy Washington:And then I told myself after two days, what am I waiting for, bro? It doesn't matter because I've already decided prior to me going through this. Now, again, when you talk about the wait, I hate to say that I waited perfect mode over my family's page. To me, in my mind, I feel job, and so I had to add a little bit of umph to it as if my umph wasn't enough. And I and I I'm painting the picture to show you how we fall into that process over and over again even when you tell
JClay:yourself that you're not. But go ahead, Jay. Yeah. Yeah, man. It is it's crazy that it is there's so many ways that we stun our growth, so to speak, especially when we clear on what we want.
JClay:And I and I and I think, like, I and it it's really becoming apparent to me, like, what I said before about we put so much weight on the situation that it makes us wait. Like, we want things to be perfect. Like you said, I understand. I was the same way when I first got on Opus Cliff. Was like, I don't wanna waste our credits, but that's why you got them.
JClay:I mean, you got them. It's it's not a waste. It's all a learning experience. No matter what you do, like, I I've heard people who say who, like, maybe want don't wanna get in don't wanna lose a relationship because they're like, I already put in too much time in this particular relationship, and it's all gonna be a waste. There's never a waste.
JClay:Like like, everything you've learned something about yourself from every situation, and that's the most important thing. Like, once you once you learn yourself and are clear on what you want, on clear what you want to experience, it makes life that much more fun because you know how to have fun. You know what's gonna put a smile on your face, and everyone loves to have fun. I I don't care who you are. You love having fun.
JClay:Whatever your fun thing is, our fun things might not look alike, but we still share the likeness and that we like having fun. And if if we could follow our inner guidance system, if we could follow what we know we wanna do, it it makes it easier. So it's so I I want anybody watching this to really just think about what's one part of your life that you can just take action right away, like, right after the show. I I was because I you know, we want you to watch the show. We don't want you to just go take action.
JClay:But I understand that too. Like, if you're like, nah. I I feel you. Your show worked. I'm taking action right now.
JClay:Do it. But just really think about something that you can take action in now and just and don't put no no weight on it. Just just do it.
Troy Washington:And and to that point, you know, the reason why we do this show is because we wanna help people realize their perfection and realize the only reason that you think that you're not perfect is if you look into the person that's next to you, you're not them. But the reality of it is all the resources, all the all the the things that you need, you have. And even going back to my point, I have all the evidence to show me otherwise. You know what I mean? Yeah.
Troy Washington:But in my mind, I allowed myself to get caught up in ways that I know I shouldn't have. So, you know, again, I I'm to I'm I'm I'm with Clay here when I say, you know, you just have to just take that leap and and and and take those steps. You want me to read that? You got that.
JClay:No. No. No. No. It's yeah.
Troy Washington:It's just
JClay:So oh,
Troy Washington:go ahead. My bad. I go. Yeah. Yeah.
Troy Washington:Okay. The the life you want starts with one present moment decision. 100. One hundred. And the reality of it is there doesn't have to be a response.
Troy Washington:The and and I think that's the key. Like, a lot of times when we're making that one present moment or that one present moment decision, we're looking for some type of instant or instantaneous reaction or something to happen. But the thing that happened was you doing, and that was the only thing that matters. And I think that's the key here. Like, you have to you have if you're gonna put weight on something, the weight should be on you doing what you want to do.
Troy Washington:And when you don't do what you want to do, then it's weighted heavily. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. One thing I'm always amazed about is the the abundance of everything. Like, we may pause in certain ways because we say, I I don't have the the right enough resources for it. So let me let me save this, and let me stop from doing this. But we've all experienced times where we were so joyful about something or we were just so enthused about it.
JClay:We might have spent our last dollars only to get that back and double, like, within the same day or the next day just because we followed that joy, and we wasn't we weren't gonna let even that stop us. And every time I do it, I'm I'm I'm like, dang. I why did I why did I almost not do this before? Like, why did I stop myself before when, again, I am fully guided? I I am fully supported.
JClay:And I I am a believer. I know I'm a believer in the higher power, and the higher power has our best interest at heart because a higher power is what gave us that interest even to begin with. And by me not following through with it, it's almost like I'm doubting it. And by doubting it, it's it's saying, hey. I wanna experience doubting you and what that feels like.
JClay:No. That's not what I wanna experience, but that's what I'm showing in my actions. And we sometimes wonder why, like, well, how come my my my reality isn't matching up with this is because we're doubting ourselves. We're doubting our experience. And so the universe is giving that to us as a gift because we are proving through our actions that's what we want even though that's not truly what we want.
JClay:Go
Troy Washington:And and the crazy thing is why would I choose the why would I choose the challenge? Not the challenge that I don't want because there there's two type of challenges. You know what I'm saying? There are things that are challenging that make us happy to do. Like, the it it literally is.
Troy Washington:Like, I can't wait to play Mario because it's gonna be hard to say, but when I get to that, it's it's but why would I choose the challenge that I don't want? And that's the reason why I like the point that you may that you just made. And two, you know, I I again, I'm gonna use the YouTube and what I'm doing now as an example because it's what I'm I'm actually living it. I'm in the moment of it. And and I and I say this to everybody that ever wants to do a YouTube channel as well just based off my own perception.
Troy Washington:There's a lot of perceptions, but encourage just do that mug because that's the ultimate of all things. But to the point that I'm making, bro, like, I started a YouTube page eight days ago for my kids. Right? And one of the goals that you have to get to in order to monetize is you're gonna get to, like, four thousand hours watched. Four thousand hours watched.
Troy Washington:Right? Which it seems like it's a lot. Now mind you pages about my kids daily grind to make it to the NBA. So it's nothing necessarily special what I would think from other people's standpoint. It's just special to me.
Troy Washington:And so I would literally just record their videos and just upload them without anything. And then I would do shorts from those videos. In a week's time, I had a hour a hour I mean, a hundred hours worth of watch time. One hundred hours worth of watch time in a week. And, again, I would go back and think to myself, well, what can I do to make this?
Troy Washington:But it's only been it's only been a week. And so again, I encourage I I minimize the thought process of the goal, number one, for myself, which in turn took out all the challenges that I didn't want. Because when I made the goal bigger than what it actually was, then that's when all of the challenging things start to come about for me. Okay. How can I do this?
Troy Washington:And so, again, I think that identifying what challenge is a challenge that is of you is very important. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:I I I love that because that that's true. Like, we challenges get a bad rep. Obstacles get a bad rep when there are truly ones that we love. Like like, for me, like, let's say I'm I I come up with the perfect hood on the perfect song. It's like, man, how do I bring this out more?
JClay:How do I bring out this point and teach it in a way that it doesn't diminish from the groove of the song? And, like, that that's a challenge that I'm I'm willing to to take. Like, it it's been times I've scrapped verses and rewrote the whole thing just because I'm like, no. I could do better than that. And that's a that's a fun challenge for me.
JClay:But there may be other challenges that I just don't wanna partake in, yet I find myself trying to partake in it instead of trusting. Like, no. This is this is not for me. This is someone else's challenge to handle. I I give this I give this up to the higher power.
JClay:I I I give up, and I'm a focus on what's for me. And and that's that's one of the main things. Like, what's for you is for you. If that if that challenge doesn't make you happy, that's not for you. Don't worry about that.
JClay:If that if that obstacle that that you feel is blocking you is not for you to to maneuver around and just, you know, turn and go the other way because that's the that's what's for you. And trust that. Like, trust that it is for you because it is.
Troy Washington:So I I wanna shout out you know my favorite player is LeBron James, bro.
JClay:Yeah.
Troy Washington:Just recently, they just asked him, and this is about challenges too. They recently asked him, they're like, bro, you playing like you you're 19, 20. Like, when are you gonna stop playing? And his answer was when the process when I stop when I stop loving the process. And then he he went on to say, when I don't when I don't when I don't wanna scalp the player and see what they tendencies are and try to stop them the next game, when I when I don't wanna workout anymore, when he and he started naming all these things.
Troy Washington:When he named all of this stuff, he didn't say anything about basketball, bro. Like, specifically, like, dribbling and shooting. He literally talked about the process of him getting to the games, And it made me realize that he's created a a chain of processes that he loves. Yeah. Because, I mean, I'm pretty sure there are workouts that he doesn't like to do.
Troy Washington:Right? Like, some of us like to run. Some of us like to lift weights. Some of us like to do sitter. Like, he literally set his press process up in a way that he loves all of it.
Troy Washington:So now it's like, well, will I stop playing whenever I don't like the process no more? Yeah. And so when I think about that and I think about these challenges, sometimes we do put challenges in front of us to do it. And, you know, when I think back when me and you were we were trying to get in shape, like, two years ago, and we was like, we're gonna start running. Right?
Troy Washington:And it it wasn't just simple as we just gonna start running. Let's see if we can run thirty minutes without stopping. And because we added that caveat in there, now there's a part of the process that's like, okay. Cool. I gotta make this thirty minutes, and we were looking forward to that.
Troy Washington:Then when we achieved it, of course, you know, we didn't we we were no longer in love with the process because we had accomplished it. Right? And so I think that when you're when you're set out to living the the the better life right now. Stop wishing for the better life and start living it now. You want to make sure you set up your challenges and your processes a way that you look forward to it.
Troy Washington:It entices you to wanna do it. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And and and that the thing the the the piece to me that stood out is that we get to pick our own path. We get to pick our own processes for the day. We get to choose our perfect day and what's perfect about it. Like, we we get to choose what we say yes to and what we say no to, and yet we don't always align our days to those things.
JClay:We we know what makes us feel better, but we might do it maybe once a week instead of every day a week. Like, we we know these things that add joy, but we don't always invest in them with ourselves. And a a question that that came to mind that kinda stopped me in my tracks when I read it was, if today was the life you dreamed of, how would you show up? And some days, you know, you you're like, man, I gotta do this. I don't feel like doing this.
JClay:I'm a show up all tired and just looking all defeated already. But if today was the life you dreamed of, how would you show up? You wouldn't wanna just show up like that. And in every moment of your life, it's an opportunity for you to live the life you dreamed up of. And so to even show up somewhere seemingly defeated or seemingly tired, like, you're you're creating that life for yourself.
JClay:And it's like, no. I don't I wanna be excited about everything I that I wanna do. And if I'm not, I don't wanna do it. I wanna do what excites me in that moment as well. But, yeah, go ahead.
Troy Washington:Yeah. And I I wanna say this. I'm I'm a go back. So so number one, I I just love the sentiment because it is simple. It's just it's just like the sentiment of, when when it comes to, they say, dress for the job that you want.
Troy Washington:You know, that's like one of the sayings that people say all the time as well. But I'm a go back and I'm a bring I'm a bring. You can use Kobe or you can use Jordan as the example, but it's it's no it's no wonder that they're considered the best player times. It's it's no mystery that we look at them the way that we look at them. And it's simple.
Troy Washington:Again, for whenever they ask LeBron that question, I'm pretty sure if you ask Kobe that question or if you ask Jordan that question at the time, their answer would have been similar. And so if you really think about, like, my process in such a way that I love it, how would I not be considered the best? How would I not perform at my peak capability? And so, like, even with me in the YouTube and the way that I'm processing it, when I showed up in the process the way that I wanted to, I got the ultimate response for myself at the time. Right?
Troy Washington:And then when I showed up, I didn't want to, then it reflected as such. And so the question that I have to ask myself is, well, if I do wanna grow beyond what I see, what challenge can I add to myself in order to do it instead of taking an all in, all in approach to the process but that takes for you to take the time for you to really think about how do I really want this to look? How, like you said, if today was the life you dreamed of, how would you show up? How do I want this to look? Because that's when you're gonna maximize and and and again, even the people that teach you SEO and teach you how to get more views, When they did it, they didn't have those processes.
Troy Washington:They did them. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. So okay. Like, check this out. I there have been times where, you know, people ask me my process maybe when creating music or how I, you know, keep track of my catalog and stuff. I'm excited about it.
JClay:I'm excited to show them my process, and I can sometimes see the light leave their eyes because they're like, you do all that? Like, that's a lot, man. But, right, but the but the thing is
Troy Washington:they they don't even have to
JClay:do that. But this is the process that's for me. Like, this is what I have fun doing. This is what I enjoy. So I'm gonna do this at every chance I get.
JClay:Like, I I love seeing a a song go from the writing column to the mixing to the mastering to complete, like, to to exporting the stems to send everywhere. Like, it is that that's an exciting part. I I like the writing that where every line has to mean something. I don't just get to the next rhyming word. But, again, that's my process.
JClay:That's for me. In the same way, like you said, LeBron James said all of this about his process, that's for him. Now like you said, if any of us did his process and we did it joyfully, we we would be great too. Like, you how can you not? Which shows that no one, excuse me, no one is more special than the next person.
JClay:We all have this ability if we would just follow our path because you're gonna do something so well just because of your enthusiasm about it that you will be seen as the expert. You will be seen as as the best. And we've seen it across all fields, even the most minute field or that that would be would be the most minute field from my current perspective. It's like, man, even they thriving at that. They're they're the best at that because that's just simply what they enjoy, and they're following their passion.
JClay:And as long as you do that, like, you will carve out the the perfect practice for you, the the the perfect way to to be you and always have that joy filled day.
Troy Washington:And and and I would I even go on to add that, you know, to the point that we're making, like, just just hit him with a Nike. Just do it. Just start. And I I promise that you will get better your way along the path. And I when I say your way, meaning along the path, your processes or your your the way that you do things will always evolve.
Troy Washington:It's just we're we're we're complex beings. We're gonna always get better in our own way. But I I emphasize that it should be your own way. And, you know, the funny thing is I think about how many videos I've been uploading. Right?
Troy Washington:And I would also think to myself that how can I come up with titles for all of this stuff? Right? Is this there's a bunch of different things that, you know, you could come to your process. But the the part that I I try to encourage people to think about is when I say you're gonna evolve during the process or you're gonna get better during the process, if you're giving yourself the opportunity and using me as an example, I'm just writing titles. But you don't think that I'm getting better writing titles every time?
Troy Washington:It doesn't mean that they might be better to you, but from my standpoint, oh, I mean, how did I think about that? What made me do that? But the the thing is I'm in it. And so with me being in it, I give myself the opportunity to to grow and also think outside of my own box if I'm up for the challenge. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And and and every skill comes with it so many accompanied skills as well that if you wanted to, you can go down this path, or you might find out you're an expert in something else that you didn't even know you're an expert in by just starting something. Like, all all of your all of the things you've done has accumulated you a certain level of wisdom of these things, like your your unique path of maybe you dabbled in this a little bit and that over there a little bit. Like, you see things from a perspective that's even broader than the person that only did that over there because you added that with that. And don't discredit yourself.
JClay:Like, you are like like like Troy said, you are complex being, but you make things complex when you can really make it simple. Like you said, you you I I love how you said we breathe by ourselves, or we just have all these processes that happen by ourselves. And sometimes the the perceived problems come when we become aware of these systems, and we try to them. Like, no. Let the let let what needs to be taken care of be taken care of of the system and and do what you're passionate about taking care of.
JClay:Like, if you're if you're passionate about that system that you wanna take over, great. Do it. If you're not, leave that to the wayside and just focus on what you enjoy.
Troy Washington:And and I like to think that there's no way that you could've thought about doing it if you couldn't do it. You know what I'm saying? Like, I I know that I'm I'm a person that believes anything is possible, but I also don't sit back and think that I'm finna fly. I just I it's it's never I I I I believe you. But I'm just saying, number one, I don't have the desire to, number one.
Troy Washington:Right? But I'm not just sitting back thinking that I'm finna just take off out my seat like Neil now. Right? It's not the it's not the top of your mind. And so the reason why I bring that up is that the things that come to the top of your mind, whether you believe them or not, are things that you actually believe that you could do at at in that moment.
Troy Washington:And so you have to be able to trust that. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Man, let me say this. I I've shared this on the show before, but to that point, I I still remember, like, when back in back in the day when I was still working at nine to five and I was just kinda planning in my head about the music and the path, but I was also intrigued by the story of of Yeshua, of Jesus, and all the healings he did and how he said, I'm not the only one that can do this. You can do this too. Every I'm not more special than you. Every you can in fact, you can do greater things than I've done.
JClay:And I was like, man. So that that means, like, we can heal others. We can we can do this. We can do that. And I think my friend asked me he was like, so you're you're gonna learn that?
JClay:I was like, yeah. Once I once I do this music thing, then I'm a figure that out.
Troy Washington:But Man.
JClay:Just how it all came together, it it came together. Like, now people say that my music heals them. And it it it's it's just an amazing thing to think about. It's like, wow. Like, I that wasn't necessarily my intention at first, but I just went for it and looked.
JClay:It happened.
Troy Washington:And see, to me, that's the point that I was making earlier. Whatever's top of mind, do. Because, ultimately, what you're to achieve is going to happen. Like, before you made the decision that you wanted to be a healer, you already knew you wanted to be a healer. Before I'm saying before you made the decision, you already knew it.
Troy Washington:And you knew it already before you were conscious of the fact that what you were doing was because the thing that you loved to do anyway, you were doing it in your music already before there was any understanding. Before you made the shift to let go, that album, I forgot the name of it right now. I am
JClay:I am nobody. I am someone. Yep.
Troy Washington:Yeah. But before you made the transition to that, the music we made before was still structured. It was still controlled because there was still only so much you was willing to let people do. And it wasn't something that you were you were consciously doing it, but you were still unconsciously doing it. You know what I'm saying?
Troy Washington:You knew that you wanted more or higher vibrations for people. And so there was, again, a limit of what you would do because you had already made the decision. But because you're allowing your world to go in the way that it's supposed to do, because you didn't have to pick up what's the book called? A course of miracles. Oh, yeah.
Troy Washington:Have to but but but it's the top of mind, so you allowed it to be. You didn't stop doing anything else. And so I think that that that that that by you allowing your life to be complex, it comes back to the ultimate anyway. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And and, yeah, appreciate that. And I and I I'm glad you brought up the word allow because, man, that's that's one of those lessons I had to learn. And I'm and I'm still in some ways learning it. Like, we we get so caught up in that that do do action action, like like, forced action, not not not the the action we're talking about where you're following your joy.
JClay:We get so caught up in that. Let's force it. I gotta force it in there. I gotta I gotta force that to to happen that we don't even allow what we've worked for to show up. We we don't allow the the seeds that we planted to sprout because we just don't throw more seeds on top of it.
JClay:Oh, this this hasn't sprouted fast enough. I'm just gonna throw more seeds on top of it. And then it's like, well, how can they sprout? You're you're not allowing it. You're you're not allowing these things to grow.
JClay:And I think that's a a major part in this whole equation.
Troy Washington:Allow it to grow, baby. I love it. Plant seeds. Everything you're doing, you planting seeds, even seeds of doubt. And so, like, again, you know, if I can't say anything before we get off of here is that, you know, when something is at top of your mind, you you are wishing for it.
Troy Washington:It came to you because you wished for it. When it's the top of your mind, you have it. And, you know, the goal here shouts out to my girl, Aurelia. I appreciate you join joining us today. You know, the point is once you dream it, once you see it, it's yours.
Troy Washington:And all you gotta do is is to move. And I I wanna I wanna give some props to her real quick. Maybe two years ago, she's been doing Texas for for as long as I've known her. And maybe two year she was just like, man, Troy, do you know how to do x, y, and z in order to get this business done? And I was like, yeah.
Troy Washington:I know how to do it. And she just asked me if I can help her. And, again, I don't know how her to do that or what made her decide, but at some point, she decided, and she'd been running since. And so I think that, again, taking action and just knowing that you can have it, especially if it's something that you wanna do is everything. But, Jay, you can go ahead and take us out, my man.
JClay:Yeah. Appreciate everybody that rocked with us. Again, hit that share button if you found this helpful. Like, subscribe, all that good stuff. We hit every Sunday, twelve noon central time.
JClay:And, yeah, just remember, you're a perfect creator made by you're a perfect creation made by a perfect creator, so you might as well accept your perfection and enter perfect mode. Yeah. Yeah. Holler. If I reminded you that you are perfect, would you argue me down or step into your perfection?
JClay:Welcome to perfect tomorrow. To perfect tomorrow. Where there are no excuses, no expectations, and we explore the world without limitations. I'm Jay Clay, rapper, a spiritual teacher, my cohost Troy Washington, your friendly neighborhood realtor. Let's be real.
JClay:So let's be perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect. Perfect.
