S5E27: The Myth of the Perfect Timing - Why Now is the Best Time to Start
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JClay:Perfect. Yeah. Happy day. Happy day. Welcome to perfect mode.
JClay:Troy, you are muted. There you go. Am
Troy Washington:I muted? What's up, man? What how in the
Troy Washington:world is
Troy Washington:I getting muted? But, anyways, welcome to perfect mode. First off, let me start by telling you that we love y'all. We're grateful for the opportunity to be anywhere, sharing our thoughts. Hopefully, in helping you realize that you are perfect and the reason why I can say that unapologetically is because I know that you are one of one.
Troy Washington:Numero uno. You cannot be replicated, duplicated, and the only reason and I mean, the only reason you would think otherwise is if you're looking at this person next to you and saying, I'm not them but guess what? You are you and that's all you need and of course, it's yours truly. Troy Washington, your friendly neighborhood realtor and I have my boy, Jake Clay, spiritual rapper and teacher and we're about to jump on here and talk about the myth. The myth of perfect timing.
Troy Washington:Why now is the best time to start? What up, Jake?
JClay:What up? What up? Again, happy day to all my perfect people in perfect land here at the perfect time. Woo hoo. Woo hoo.
JClay:It is to talk about the myth of perfect timing. And, yeah, I'm I'm I'm I'm all for it. I'm ready to to to touch on this, especially now because now is now. We which we gonna get into. We yeah.
JClay:Happy day. Happy Sunday.
Troy Washington:Yeah. So plenty plenty enough before we get into it. You know, when I walked out, my wife was asking me. She was like, say, so what's y'all topic today? And I told her, was like, you know, we're gonna talk about the myth of perfect timing, and you can just see the the the wheels start turning in her head.
Troy Washington:Like, what do mean myth of perfect time and you know, just in brief, I was just like, you know, we don't realize that we all have a mentality or a thought process of what perfect timing is but it's only ours. And and and that's essentially what makes it not real. But I wanna know what your thoughts are on this, and let's get into it, baby.
JClay:It may oh, okay. Actually, there's so many thoughts to this topic, and I I do wanna flesh them out just to to, one, see what I really believe, but then also what I want to believe because that's the key to, in a sense, unlocking the reality that you want. Like, we we don't realize we get to choose our beliefs, and we only see through the eyes of our beliefs. But one thing, you know, it's all about perfect timing. We always hear about perfect timing.
JClay:Like, you gotta be lucky. You gotta be here at the right time, perfect time. Timing is everything. Even divine time, you know, like, everything's on divine timing, which depending on how you say that could be that you might not believe that you're worthy of it right now, so you gotta wait for God to then allow you to have it later because you might not believe that he he wants you to have it now. I don't know.
JClay:But we we gonna talk about all of that. What what what's your thoughts?
Troy Washington:Well, so number one, I'm I'm kinda like you. I mean, I think there's a lot of different elements that apply to this. But I think to me, when I when I think about perfect timing and, you know, what that means to me in my life or and what I see from other people is the insatiable desire to always and this is especially when it's pertaining to other people. Like, your timing is always perfect when it's just you. Like, you can do anything that you want but the part that I think that we miss out on is whenever there's a co creation, I say perfect timing is based off of something that you may desire or something that you may need when the reality of it is, whatever my portion of it is, I can always be doing whether you're ready or not.
Troy Washington:And that's kind of, you know, where the perfect time it plays out. Like, the perfect timing for me to do what I need to do was when I had the best opportunity, and that is always, man. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. So let's let's start by talking off by starting off, like, just talking about time itself. Let me see if I can remember this. I have a song called time, and in it, I say time is an illusion. A conclusion came through disillusion.
JClay:Disillusions causes dang it. I forgot it. I forgot it. Oh, well. Shouldn't have tried to do that.
JClay:But, time is an illusion. And and what I what I mean by that is we all hear it said that we are here right now. Right now is the only time. When we think about the past, we're thinking about it from right now. When we're thinking about the future, we're thinking about it from right now.
JClay:We've never not experienced right now. And so in in some sense, you could say that all time is the perfect timing because, like you were just saying, Troy, like, we we always hear, and we don't necessarily have to wait once we have a thought or an inkling to do something. Like, we can start now if we want to. We can there's always something you can do if you're that passionate about it. You can plan it.
JClay:You can act it out. You can rehearse it in your mind, get the logistics together. It's always something you can do now. And I I I just want I really want us to get to get out of the mindset that we have to be bound by time. Like, what happened to the past in the past does not have to dictate our now, which means it does not have to dictate our future.
JClay:Only we have the power to do that unless we give that power up.
Troy Washington:No. And and and, I mean, those are that's that's how I feel as well. Those are my sentiments as well. And again, I think the biggest part to this is when it comes to co creation. I think that a lot of times, when it comes to, just as an example, you know, you know, somebody that says, I want to create this business and then, they'll go and say, okay, well, these are the things that I need but I can't do this until I get this money, right?
Troy Washington:And so, there's a caveat because there's a, you feel like there's another piece to the puzzle that has to be brought in from the outside in order for me to be successful. And I and I'm using a business as an example but it could be anything. It's same thing with me training my kids. I can say, well, I can teach Brody this skill but he can't learn it until he's this age because before this age, nobody ever does this. And so whenever you start to think about timing, whenever we start planning things or we start to move forward with whatever we're trying to do, there's a co creation level that comes or becomes a part of it and we allow that to dictate our emotions and the way that we move with our own personal portion of whatever it is that we need to do.
Troy Washington:And again, prime example, you know, we just started a a basketball season for my boys at Fieldhouse, my my AAU team. And and leading up to it, I was thinking to myself, okay, well, we need to have a play this season. We need to do this. We need to do this and I was thinking about it and I was like, okay, well, when I get to them, we going to get down and we going talk about it and I'm going walk them through this and then I said, you know what? I just took the day.
Troy Washington:I came in the room, turned the light off, and I just got on YouTube and I started looking at different plays. Then, after I looked at the different plays, I mapped it out and put the people in the place that I thought it was going to would be in these positions And then I ran it through a couple of times. And again this had nothing to do with anybody. But the perfect timing was the time that I had in that moment because I had the time to do it. And then what ends what ends up happening is when the co creation part comes into play, I walked in and said, this is what we're doing.
Troy Washington:I knew it the rooters to the two there, and we walked through it easily, it made practice easy. And, again, you know, I could have waited, but I realized that my perfect time was right now. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. I I want everyone to just kinda think about, like, what what's something you've been waiting for the perfect time to start? And and just just really just bring that to you to the forefront of your mind while you watch, this episode of perfect mode. And so one thing that I've I've been learning and understanding about time is it's a reflector. It's a reflector of how you see yourself, of of where you think you are in life, so to speak.
JClay:It's never about maybe things in your possession or not in your possession or something like that. What I mean by that is, like, right now right now, if somebody said, hey. I I need you to just make a song real quick, and I no. I I have no equipment, no studio, no nothing. Like, just just get this song done.
JClay:I need this song done by tonight, you know, for an example, or in the next hour. Where I'm at now, I can easily do that, like, from start to finish, from scratch, from inception to to the physical manifestation of it, but there was a time where I could not. I didn't believe in myself enough to make that happen. And when you think about all things that you are capable of, like, all things that you know Like, I I I know that I can speak. I I just know that I don't have to think about it.
JClay:I just I just know, and so I do. And when you when you really put that in the forefront and think about the things you don't believe you can do yet, it's just a matter of time. Meaning, it it's a matter of aligning with that so that it can appear in front of you now. But you can you can save that time. You can do it in seconds.
JClay:You can do it in moments, or you can do it in years or months. It's it's all up to you.
Troy Washington:So let me give you a perfect example for for something that's happening to me right now.
JClay:Yeah.
Troy Washington:Now mind you, and this is for anybody in the content creation world. One of the biggest things that we're clamoring for in most cases is how can we get more people to be attuned to what we got going on? Get more participation. Get more people to watch. Get more people to do out.
Troy Washington:Like if you're in a content creation world, your eyes are are generally focused on that. But a lot of times, you don't move because the mid the perfect timing. I don't want to do this until I reach this milestone. Or I don't want to do this until this happens. And so for the past for the past two months or or three months now, I told myself and and mind you, let let me let me let me reset.
Troy Washington:Something that I've been doing for my family since my kids were born which is my, I have a 13 year old right now. His name is Troy and I have a seven year old. His name is Brody. And essentially, every month of their life, I've tried to record a video. Like, every, it, it, it don't have to be anything major.
Troy Washington:It could just be small stuff. I was just playing around the house, going outside, going to the airport. Whatever we do, just make sure every month I click and record. And so you can just imagine over two kids' lifetime, the amount of content that I may have created, right? Or I've been able to record.
Troy Washington:Now, I always look at YouTube, TikTok, and I'm looking at all these families that have all of these videos up. They got all of these subscribers and all of these people watching and I always tell myself, okay, well, once I upload these videos, Imma create our channel. Imma do all of these things and and and again, this is all about a perfect timing mentality, right? And so, I'm holding on to all of this stuff that's stopping is preventing me or giving me the opportunity to grow in the way that I feel like I need to because I'm still waiting on specific things to happen before I do what I want to do. So, in January, I told myself, you know what?
Troy Washington:No matter what, I'm not, I'm not, I'm still going to create my channel but I'm just going to start uploading all of this stuff right now. Every day, I'm going to upload a certain amount of videos and along the pathway, I'm going to start to figure out what monetizing this means and all that kind of stuff, right? So, from January 1 to now, I probably uploaded Jay Clay probably, I don't know, about four, five hundred videos, right? Now, this is what's crazy about this, right? I'm talking about views and I haven't been able to monetize.
Troy Washington:I'm figuring it out as I go, right? But I I I look at my YouTube views and before January, I probably had like maybe one view, two views, 50 views in the last twenty eight days. Well, when I look at it last night, I have 37, zero views in the last twenty eight twenty eight days. Like, it's 70 something new subscribers in the past, you know, twenty eight days and again, what I said after for my goal to be or what I imagine for my goal to be is bringing people in, get people to watch videos, putting down my family stuff, and then building it up from there. And the reality is when I decide to stop waiting, all of that stuff is happening without all the prerequisites that I've set in my mind to have.
Troy Washington:But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. I love that because, again, like, it's all here. Every every thing we actually need. Like you said, you you wanted to just start your channel. You wanted to be able to add content.
JClay:You already had all the content. You've been saving this content for years. Like, you you you already think like that. You already wanna capture the certain moments, like, while you're there. And it's cool because what we don't realize is how we see things our life is set up perfectly for.
JClay:So for an example, like, I don't necessarily wanna capture, you know, that many moments and and and do that, but it's alright for me. And Right. I know, like, in the in the past, like, I might look at maybe how you do things and think like, man, maybe I need to do it like that or how other people creators do things. Maybe I should do it like that to to get what they want. But at the same time, it's about being real with what you want, what you want for for yourself, and how you wanna step into that space of experiencing that what you want, of of of being the essence of that which you're portraying.
JClay:And a lot of times, it has nothing to do with anyone else, and it's important to get in touch with yourself and exactly what you want because once you do, you realize, like, shoot. I'm living this. I'm I'm right here. I'm all I need to do now is just press play and execute, and it's, as always, a beautiful thing.
Troy Washington:Yeah. And and, again, that's the the beauty of it as well is the the funny part, the even even in my story, that that you see yourself as in the future is that that you are. So, in my mind, I'm saying the pre the prerequisite for me to be a content creator is for me to create all of this stuff that I don't necessarily need because like you said, I'm telling myself in the future, I'm going be a content creator. I'll in the midst of me being a content creator. It it is it's it's it's funny thinking and you know, again, this is where I I I challenge people just the way that I challenge myself was think about it think about what it is that you want to happen.
Troy Washington:And then see if it's already happening. See what part you played in that already. Because again, we like to overlook now. And again, it's it's easy especially when it comes to comparison. It's easy for me to look at somebody that's putting out a lot of videos even though I'm recording a lot of videos and saying, I'm not doing what they're doing and it makes me think about walking on the streets of Miami when we were selling CDs.
Troy Washington:Me and you will be selling CDs and people will say, I do this, I'm doing this, I do the same thing you do. And then we will look at them and say, well, you're not doing the same thing that I'm doing because I'm out here with the CDs right now. And the reality of it is, whether we were able to kill somebody's dream or not, you have to be strong enough within yourself to realize that it doesn't have to look the same as this. So, therefore, I am and so, for myself, I told myself, you're trying to be a content creator. Oh, you are a content creator.
Troy Washington:So let everybody see the content that you have because it doesn't matter what it is. And just to give you an update on that number, it's actually 46,401 views in the last twenty eight days. It's crazy. And again, something that I couldn't even have imagined. You get what I'm saying?
Troy Washington:Even though I've imagined it. You know? And and it's it's weird, but go ahead, Jay.
JClay:No. That that's that's that's awesome. You might be able to monetize now. I don't know. I don't remember the the number, but check into that.
JClay:One one thing you said is is to be able to see it. And and and seeing it in your imagination is more important than seeing it in, quote, unquote, reality because your imagination is the start of everything. Like, it it's when you know your essence, your essence is just conveyed to everyone that experiences you. Like, you just you know you know, like, growing up, I remember being in school, and I used to wonder why some teachers could command the respect of the students, and others, students just ran all over. And it it's just something about that essence.
JClay:You know, oh, no. I'm not gonna mess with this person. Or you're like, I can play around with this person. I don't gotta I don't gotta be too serious, but it all starts with how you're seeing yourself and how you portraying your essence to the world. So one thing that I'm I'm I'm doing right now that I'm amazed at is so I I take I I I practice martial arts.
JClay:And one thing I've always wanted to do is, like, just do that stationary pose where your leg is, like, all the way up here, and you just go like that. But but for a while, my leg was just kinda just right here where I can just hold it, like like, parallel to the ground comfortably. And so I started trying to do it in my imagination. The funny thing was when I tried to go up here in my imagination, I started feeling like I was working out my side ab. That's crazy.
JClay:And it was like, this is my imagination. I can do whatever I want to in that, but I realized I couldn't go any higher in reality because I couldn't really hold it higher in my imagination. So, I was like, okay. Well, instead of going up here, let me just go a little bit higher in my imagination. I did it.
JClay:And then when I did it in reality, I was like, oh, I can go a little bit higher. But but again, I was I was limited by what I believed I could do. And that's why they say like, you know, if you're a salesman, if you have a sales job, sell it to yourself first. If you can sell yourself, you can sell anybody.
Troy Washington:You know, and it and it begs the question for me, like, where is the disconnect? When does it happen? Because again, and I know we talk about this all the time, but the thing that the reason why it pops up in my head all the time is because I have kids, bro. And I have a little kid that he, I, I mean, I literally tell you this every week.
JClay:He feels like he
Troy Washington:can do anything. And a part of that is because he doesn't have any boundaries on his his his imagination. His imagination is completely unlocked. And there's somewhere along this pathway where we're growing and we're learning and we're seeing things. It's funny because it's it's not even that some sometimes the things that we see, they give us limitations but they give us a finite idea of what something is supposed to be and so and and what I mean by that is like, when I see somebody become a millionaire making music, my imagine that nobody told me that I couldn't go out and do all these other things.
Troy Washington:I literally just stamped and said, this is the way that it is. This is the way I saw that. This is the way that it is and everything else is not real and it's it's it's it's just a crazy thought for us to be able to kill the thought process of anything else being an option when there's not anything that there's not any evidence for it to be that for that to be the case. But go ahead.
JClay:Well, see, eve even evidence is not necessarily real. So, like, you you had asked what's the disconnect from, like, seeing it and then it not not happening. And I would say you or or I are the disconnect because, like, let's say somebody's like, man, prove it to me or show me. And I and let's say you you do. You show them, but it doesn't look like how they expect it to look.
JClay:That that doesn't deny that you can't do it. That doesn't deny that you are this supreme being that can do whatever you want to do. Like, a lot of people use evidence as their deterrent. And as someone who who's lived in that lifestyle too, I can see the I can see both halves of it, but it's like, no. Just because I didn't do it this time does not mean I can't do it.
JClay:Doesn't mean that I'm not doing this right now. You're just choosing not to see this. I am this person. This is who I am. There's nothing you can do about it, but I don't need you to do anything about it because it doesn't matter.
JClay:All that matters is what I'm doing about it and how I see myself. And we we have to stop letting evidence dictate certain things because even on a physics level, we learned that nothing is stationary. Like, even this microphone I'm speaking to, if you go in zoom enough, you see it's always in constant motion giving the appearance of something that is fixed and stationary. Like, all things are consciousness in a sense. And because of that, we can govern that consciousness and shape things to how we want it.
Troy Washington:And and so, it's two things here and this is in regards to evidence, right? Because in in even in my my description, I'm I'm saying that we'll see something that will deter us. We literally say the pathway for for this to happen has to happen this way, right? Because I have evidence of it happening this way. But then on the flip side, what I'm saying is, there is no evidence to show that there are other ways cannot work.
Troy Washington:So, we use evidence as a plus than one factor and then, dismiss evidence on another on another plane And that's what I'm saying for for any individual and I I'm with you. Not letting evidence lead your way is is key. But I'm saying no way. Because if you're if you're if you're applying evidence to any set scenario and saying this is the way, then you cannot in the on the backside of it, not apply evidence and just just say that none of this stuff matters. You get what I'm saying?
Troy Washington:And so but but but but I'm with you though. Go ahead, Doug.
JClay:Alright. And and to that, like, we see it in kids all the time. You even mentioned it about your youngest. Like, in in basketball, he's probably like, man, I could beat anybody. I can beat you.
JClay:You're like, no. You're not you're not beating me. And you beat him, but even though you beat him, he like, no. He ain't beat me. I'm I'm still doing this.
JClay:I'm still I'm still winning. He can't beat me. Like, it and and because of that, he's winning against a lot of people his age and people older than him. Like, he's he's closing in that gap where he will be able to beat everyone because he's holding that vision of himself. He's he's staying in that power, and that's what we all do as kids.
JClay:And and we again, for for one chance or another, we start to believe more in evidence than our own imagination because because maybe we're tapping into the energy of those that are around us that's giving us the most support, and we start to see things their way because we're appeasing to them in a sense. But hold your imagination firm, and you will see it in reality.
Troy Washington:And and and I I love that. And and this is just me playing with evidence again. But why can't your own imagination be your own evidence? Like, why can't you hold your imagination in such regard where again, I even hate
JClay:to think about it as
Troy Washington:if we're not using our imagination at any time because the way that I see life is every time I do something, I thought about it before I did it. Even from the time that I get up in the bed. I literally before I get out of the bed, I see myself walking and you, we do it so much that we kind of disregard the thought but the reality of it is, everything that we're doing, we're seeing it and the only time that we stray from it is if there's something that we see that kind of displays us from believing in our own imagination. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Right. Exactly. And, like, everything we react to in what we call reality is just a thought anyway. Like, we have a thought about the screen that we're watching. We have a thought about the text that's on the screen, and our imagination is nothing but thoughts as well.
JClay:And so what's the difference in the thought? The one that you choose to think, the one that you choose to focus on, you will experience because you also have emotions attached to this thought. And, again, be because of these certain thoughts that you that you bring about, you bring about a a certain authority to yourself. Like, again, there there's there's something to be said about if you watch two speakers of someone who has total belief in themselves and what they're speaking about and someone who doesn't, someone who may be parroting someone else, you can see and feel the difference whether you agree with the person that doesn't believe them with themselves or not. It's almost like, I don't wanna agree with them because they don't even believe what they're saying.
JClay:But luckily, I do, and I'm I'm confident in myself because this is how I choose to live life.
Troy Washington:So I think then here's the question. You know, how, you know, how do we get to this point to release ourselves to the the imagination or to the the the timing of it being perfect now like and why isn't that like, you know, just like the question, you know, why is now the best time to start?
JClay:Yeah. Practice. Or which is really just living, which is really just existing. Like, you know what you want out of life. And even if you wanted to use evidence, because I know you said, like, we we I agree with you.
JClay:We should take evidence out of it. But if you're gonna use it, use it to your advantage. Everything that you wanna do, there's evidence that someone already did it. There is evidence, and you can choose to focus on that if you want to. But it's much easier to focus on what you can imagine in your mind.
JClay:They talked about about Tesla. Like, Tesla made all these at, what did I don't know. All these things with electricity and stuff, stuff that that catapulted us to the next millennium, so to speak. And I was reading his story, and a lot of the devices he made, he would make them in his imagination. He said that he got so good that he can be like, oh, I need to create this kind of part, it goes perfectly into this, and it screws in like this.
JClay:And it would omit this, and he would then do it into reality because he already worked it out in his mind. And I'm not that proficient in it yet, but I'm getting better. Like, I'm it it's it all comes from the practice of it. And the more I do it, the better I do it, the bet the clearer my image becomes. And I'm amazed at like, man, this is this is clear.
JClay:I remember when this image was fuzzy. And and and, again, like, once once you see it in your mind, you start noticing it everywhere. It's like, we you always bring up, like, the the what's the game you play with the car? It's it's some game you play with the cars, but once you see once you say the car, you see it everywhere. Like, I think we say bingo.
JClay:That's my car or something. But go ahead.
Troy Washington:Yeah. No. Yeah. It's yeah. It's that well, I always just say recall, but, yeah, I'm I'm with you 100%.
Troy Washington:And funny enough, bro, an exercise that I do with myself every day and the reason why I do it every day is because I haven't, I've yet to master it. But I have a ceiling fan in my bedroom. It's right above my bed. And I always look at the ceiling fan, of course, when I'm laying on my back. And then I close my eyes and then I try to imagine every detail of the ceiling fan.
Troy Washington:And the reason why I do that is because I'm trying to claim full pictures in my mind, in my mindscape, right? Anything that I want. And I and it's something that I do, but I think that for me, the thing that I would encourage people to do more often than than not is every single thing that you don't want to do that you want to do. So let me just say it like this. Everything that you want to do that you don't want to do, ask yourself why.
Troy Washington:Like, start asking yourself why do I why would I not do this right now? Again, just using, you know, the YouTube as an example, I had a insatiable desire in myself for the longest because I've been talking about it for years and especially one of the mottos that I tell my kids all the time is, you know, we don't just watch people. You know, we are we are creators. We we we supposed to be fruitful and multiply. So, whenever they get to watching you know, TikTok and YouTube all the time, I always ask them if they make a video because my thought process is you need to make videos if you going to watch people.
Troy Washington:But I always this I guess this is a part of my makeup. It's the reason why I'm telling you that. And so I know I watch a lot of stuff. So it's like you gotta create. But then there's all of these caveats that I've continuously given myself.
Troy Washington:Even with me doing what I'm doing now saying, well, I can't wait for this. But then I will stop and ask myself, why? Why do I have to wait for this? Why, like, who's setting the, who's setting the parameters on you? Who's setting parameters on what your videos need to be like?
Troy Washington:And if I, if I'm confused, I would say, who's setting the parameters on those people? Because I'm just watching them and so you you have to stop and ask yourself why as many times as possible so that way you can continue to give yourself the answer that you need in order for you to move forward. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yes. And I I I think that's key and important because you bring it to your awareness now. And with the awareness that you now have, you realize that now is the perfect time. Like, oh, okay. This only happens so I can see this.
JClay:And now that I see this, I might as well move forward. I know, we we we both did this because we talked about it before that when we come into a new awareness, we always like, man, I wish I woulda did this earlier, like, looking on the past instead of just taking ownership of it like, man, this is what I'm gonna do from now on. I'm gonna take this knowledge and utilize it now. Because when you pause to look at the past, even in that instance, you're taking yourself away from now. And I I heard this perfectly.
JClay:It was like, it was it was Bashar who said this. He said if you're, too focused in the past or too focused in the future, the gifts that you were you've been asking for don't know where to find you because you're not here anymore. And here is where everything exists. Here is where all of it is, and I can attest to that. And it's a beautiful reminder too because when when I'm if if I'm feeling overwhelmed, like, for a split second, I'm like, let me calm down.
JClay:Let me get back to the now. Let me see things as they truly are, and you will see how blessed you are. You will see how perfect you are. You will see how supported you are in everything you wanna do, including whatever this is right now.
Troy Washington:And and I and I can attest to that, though, bro. Like, new information, if you are not in the right mind space, can be crippling. Like, it's it's literally, like especially when you're focused on something and just depending and this is just for me having a lack of words. Depending on how far down the rabbit hole you've gone. It's like dang.
Troy Washington:I don't want to start over. But again to your point not realizing that you can employ whatever new information you have into right now. And again, I guess the best way for me to to think about it is, I just came from Disney World, bro. A couple days ago, I took my kids to Disney World. And we got on the ride for Guardians of the Galaxy.
Troy Washington:And we sat in the line for seventy five minutes. And we got into the action of the ride where they start to show you stuff and let you know that you're fixing to get on a ride and the ride breaks down. And the thought process is, dang. I do not want to get out this line because if I get out there, we gotta start all the way over, whether it's here or it's going to be starting all the way back over in another run at, right? And they're all seventy five minutes long.
Troy Washington:And so, being so far in where you cannot release yourself because you feel like you bought in. But the reality was in the ride when it broke down we just pulled out our you know the kids YouTube and iPads and say you know what? There's things that we can do
JClay:now
Troy Washington:to supplement for us to continue to move forward. So that that's just the way kinda that's the way that I think about it.
JClay:Yeah. I love that because like you said, like, I I I've had experiences as well where you're you're so scared that you're gonna, like, lose your spot in something. You you're so scared that, you're gonna forget all that you just researched that you're gonna have to find your way back to this point just to move forward, and that's not true at all. Like, you what's it's it's it's kind of of having a belief that all is well. Like, that all is perfect timing.
JClay:Not that perfect timing has to be found or it just has to happen to you. It's seeing that all is perfect timing. So for me feeling like I need to stop right now, me feeling like I need a break right now or to pause and come back to this and revisit this, that is very valid. It's all perfect timing, and you are always exactly where you're supposed to be. So I I I love that analogy too because, you know, one good thing is that it didn't break down while you own it.
JClay:They were able to to get it fixed so that you can have the the flawless ride that you wanted.
Troy Washington:I I think too the question here is and and, again, this is just all in the spirit of perfect mode. So I'm a tell y'all that, again, you know, our thought process here and what we believe is that you are perfect. And the only reason you think otherwise is if you're you're basing your perfection on someone else. So, you know, if you agree with that and you feel like that can be helpful to someone else, please make sure you like, share, and subscribe, and let somebody else know about it. But again, in that sentiment, the thought process here is, wicked, anything that I do not be perfect.
Troy Washington:And that's where I think that we continue to get lost in. Like, you know, being a father and having two kids, I still remember the anticipation of I don't know what to do. I I also remember before becoming a father saying, I want to wait till everything is perfect, right? And the beauty and what I'm able to see in it all is there have been points in my life that I've been living in that what I had to give my son was the perfect thing that he needed. And, again, there was a discount leading up to it to say that I was missing things or I didn't have certain stuff.
Troy Washington:But I also do know that at the age that I was at with the experiences that he had, had I not been in a place that I was at, there probably wouldn't have been the perfect answer that I was able to give him at the time and so, I I I again, I just I I caution you to question yourself and say, when am I not when is it when is what I am right now not right? Go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And I I okay. So I'll give a caution to that. The only reason I I can say that is, like, right now, we're both in a great space. And to ask that is gonna be exemplified in a great space.
JClay:But I've I've seen people ask something in not so great a space that it causes them to kinda spiral down to more negative space. You know? Like, well, I wasn't right when I did this. I wasn't right when I did this. So it it's more so, I I would say, point out when you were right.
JClay:You know what I mean? Like, point out the examples of when you were. Like, you know, when you know, like like, what what are some good examples when I did the right thing, when I made the right choice, when I experienced the best of this? Or even make some up in your mind because, again, your imagination is very important. That that's why, like, plenty of times we stress what you're feeding yourself even on your feed.
JClay:Like, we call our when we scroll on social media, we call it a feed because we are ingesting all of this, and it's adding to our essence and our our our focal point of what we're bringing into existence into the experience of what we want to experience. And so it's important that if you want certain things, you feed yourself things that align with that and not the opposite because whatever you focus on draws it closer to you. So even if you if you were to focus on all the sickness in the world, it's gonna it's gonna deepen your belief in sickness and its effects. If you think about health all the time, it's gonna deepen your belief in in health and its effects. And so it's like we get to be the curator of our feed and how much are we doing that consciously?
Troy Washington:So to your point, I also wanna say that, again, the way that you think about the things is gonna co sign whatever the result is. Right? And I and I'm I'm going to shout out to ILT International Leadership Protection. That's the school that my kids go to. And I sub there from time to time.
Troy Washington:And you know, one of the things that I always try to tell my sons or to try to to instill in my kids is that if you do things that are are look favorite, looked at pawn as good things, right? At school, then, you'll continuously get good things to happen to you or you'll continuously put yourself in a place where you're full of joy, right? And so, through my sons and I'm talking about my 13 year old through his life, I've been able to kind of reinforce that thought because of I I feel like he he lives a good life. You know, I'll let him describe it to you but I feel like he's more on the happy end of the spectrum more than that but when I was subbing for him recently, whenever I'm in his class, I don't try to mess with him because I, you know, again, I don't know what his thought process is but I can imagine being in a classroom with your dad as a substitute, depending on how strict I am, you know, kids could be like, your dad be tripping or, you know, there's a lot of different things that could be in the area.
Troy Washington:That's just me using my imagination on what I believed could be, right? But in but to that point, in the classroom, I don't mess with him. So, this one day, he's in the classroom and the kids are a little bit rowdy and I'm getting on the kids but I'm getting on the kids my way. Like, hey, man. And I'm talking to them the way that I talk to kids.
Troy Washington:Like, you you gotta know better. How you do anything is how you do everything. You're not focused on, you know, I'm I'm I'm giving them all the stuff, right? But all the while, my son is over on his computer next to some of the kids that's just rowdy and he's working working away his computer And then when he had the opportunity to talk, he still would joke with them but never getting out of line. But still also not putting on a show for them or putting on a show for me.
Troy Washington:And so when I see this, I'm like, dang, this dude is a, he's a strong minded kid because he understood that I know what my purpose is. I know what I'm here for. Regardless of what's going on or whatever the circumstances are, I'm a focus on what's going to continue to put me in a space that I need to be And so, that same day, he got an announcement at school about something that, you know, they they gave to him for being, you know, the good kid that he is. But I told him before it even happened, he came, when we, they were walking out of the class, I said, hey, man. I want you to know that I'm proud of you because I don't know how it feels to be in your shoes but I also know that the way that you're responding to it all is the way that I would imagine that you would and that's the reason why your life continues to go up in a way that you wanted to go and so, to me, again, it's just, it's just one of those things of he's he's seeing the reinforcement, but he's making that happen because he's staying adamant to where he believes.
Troy Washington:But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. I love that, and I I love that in your story you brought up, like, he he remembers his his purpose for doing whatever he's doing. And that and that's that's so key and so much. Like, purposelessness leads to a lot of stuff we don't want. Like, when we just go through the motions, when we do things because we think we're supposed to do it, when we do things because we think somebody else wants that for us, like, no.
JClay:Know why you're doing what you're doing and and be what's the word? Be aligned with that purpose. Like because you might be doing something for the benefit of something with no joy attached to yourself. And so you're gonna do that even if even though you're aligned with the purpose, but you're like, I'm gonna hate this. You're get that.
JClay:And that's that's that was your purpose of doing it. Your purpose was to show how much you hate something. But when you're real with yourself about it, you're like, nah. I don't want that to be my purpose for doing this. I'm doing this because I'm looking out for this person or whatever, and it's gonna bring me joy to do that.
JClay:And so it will. And so it like, that's that's one of those hidden keys to the to the now, to the to the perfect timing of it all. Like, because some sometimes events will break up what we think is perfect time. Like, man, I wanna do this. I wanna work on this right now.
JClay:They're like, hey. We need you over at blah blah blah. Can you go help me with this? And you're like, come on, man. You're messing up my time.
JClay:But when you when you zoom out and realize, no. It's perfect. You you you might be due for a break to allow reality to catch up to your mindset. You might be due for this thing to to practice this this space that you're in and and to to share these ideas with others so that they can be more seeds that grow in your world. When you look at all that, you realize that, oh, it is always perfect timing and that this is another opportunity that presented itself for me to show that.
Troy Washington:And and just to kind of piggyback on that as well, bro, like, if you're not if you're not purposeful or understand your purpose, two things is gonna happen. And, I'm not trying to create a world, but it's just the the world that I've seen in front of me. So if this is not what you believe that, you know, for for everybody, you know, don't take this. But I'm just letting you know, when you don't know your purpose, that that you're doing, number one, you will not be consistent. That's number one.
Troy Washington:Number two, not only will you not be consistent, it will be hard. It will be hard, bro. Like, all the times that I've ever got on the treadmill and I didn't understand what my purpose was, it's like pulling teeth to make me do it every day. It's like pulling teeth to make me do it. It it it's like pulling teeth to get through, right?
Troy Washington:But whenever I understand and I know what my purpose is, such a weight is lifted off of your shoulders. Like, even using perfect mode as an example. The lightest weight that I ever had, you would think that for somebody to be five seasons in, you know, equating to five years, there's a a I I I never reluctant to come on and do the show, bro. I I always love to do the show. And it's never a job.
Troy Washington:Even with us having our meetings during the week, they don't even, they don't matter to me because I get to do the show. So, because I understand what my purpose is, everything that everything else that falls in line with what I'm doing with that, when you talk about being in alignment, it becomes easier. It makes it it it lifts that weight off your shoulder and gives you the the ability to continue to move forward, especially in a joyous way. But go ahead, bro.
JClay:Man, so two things you ever think of. One, this week, I checked in with myself about perfect mode. I was like, was just I was going through everything. Like, do I still wanna do this? And I perfect mode came up, and it was a overwhelming, yes.
JClay:You still wanna do perfect mode. Like, don't take this away. So I was like, okay. Cool. Move on to the next thing.
JClay:So I'm I'm with you on that. And then the second thing about when you said when you're not clear on your purpose for, like, working out and you do it, it's the hardest thing. So last week, I think it was not this Thursday, but the Thursday before that, I went to practice, you know, my martial arts, And I didn't feel like it. I I knew I didn't feel like I was going back and forth with myself. And but I I've had times before where I'll as soon as I go and walk in the door, I just get the energy and everything.
JClay:But for whatever reason, I I was just going through the motions. And and when my workout ended, I realized what I kinda did to myself. I was like, dang. I kinda just sowed some seeds that I didn't wanna sow. Like, I should've either committed and been fully present or decided that I'm not going and and be fully there.
JClay:And so what ended up happening was, like, the next week, I kinda tweaked my back a bit doing something different, but it it was probably from the result of the the, what do you call it? The resistance that I put myself through from from forcing myself to do something that I wasn't fully aligned with at the moment. And so when that happened, I couldn't practice martial arts for for last week at all. Like, I was, you know, recuperating. But at the same time, I appreciated it because I learned a lesson on a on a way that I wouldn't have learned it before where this could've kept coming up and happening and everything.
JClay:So I was grateful for it for the rest, and I was like, well, you know what? I'm gonna use this time to really rest now so that once I feel my back should be as healed as it should be, I can go back out and do what I wanna do. And that's where I am now. And I'm I'm again, I'm I'm very grateful for the perfect timing of this happening.
Troy Washington:I'm a tell you what's funny about your your story in comparison to mine. Like, so number one, bro, like, when we talk about purpose, I told myself for myself, for my purpose, I wanted to have a healthy lifestyle, right? That was that was one of my goals for, that's my purpose. I have a healthy lifestyle. So, I then in turn had to go back and say, well, what does that look like to me?
Troy Washington:Right? And so, one of my goals that I set for this year was to work out more than I don't and so when I'm what I mean by that is not necessarily hours per se but days. So, I want them to be able to work out four days of the week and be able to chill at least three days a week but most importantly, the healthy lifestyle said, workout more than you don't and so, what ends up happening is this year, I know that, okay, well, shoot. All I gotta do is workout four days a week to thirty minutes. Now, the cool part about it is because it's more about me living a, you know, the purposeful, healthy life that I I've decided for myself.
Troy Washington:I haven't missed a day this year. Like, I've worked out every single day for thirty minutes this year. Not not miss one day. But the crazy part is, I, two weeks ago, before I went to Disney World, bro, I had my first practice. Like I told you, I sat in the room and I made my plays up and I went to practice and in doing so, I got out there and ran stuff with them.
Troy Washington:I jammed my knee Right? Now you could just imagine your knee being jammed and you're saying that you're going to run every day is not necessarily two things that you would equate to go together. And so there's an initial dread that comes into my mind. Right? But what happened is, I remember my purpose, right?
Troy Washington:And so because I remember my purpose, the knee pain or the knee issue is not that the knee pain or issue goes away but what I will tell you, the mental strain of it went away and so, I've been getting on the treadmill every day and it's not to say that I don't feel my leg and and and also, I'm doing it in such a way where I feel like I don't injure myself anymore than I already am. But the the the what I would tell you in the past is this is the easiest time for me not to do this anymore. This would have been the easiest time for me to shut down. Because it's not a part of my purpose. It's because it would have been harder for me to do it.
Troy Washington:Even walking around Disney World every day, my wife would ask me, how you how you feeling today? Like, how your leg feeling? And I would tell her early on like, I'm good because my purpose was for my kids to have a good time. And so it just it when I talk about the weight being lifted and and and allowing you to have that same energy no matter what's going on, that's what the purpose would do for you. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. Same. I I I know, like, we we talked about something that I'm doing this year for people that don't know is every month I add a new habit that I must do every day, and I just add on when the next month comes. So, like, whenever I started in January, I end up doing it all the way through December. Whenever I start in February, you know, through December and so on.
JClay:And so one of mine is just a hundred jump ropes a day. I was like, it's simple enough where I can do it that even when I don't wanna do it, can just, you know, do it real quick. And even with my back, I was I did that, and it was so easy. Like like, I got to a point now I just do it in one quick set. But when my back was doing whatever, I just did it in two sets, and it was still very easy to do in those two sets.
JClay:And I was just amazed by, man, I'm glad I set this purpose because I'm still able to do it. And when we stretch ourselves, when we stretch our imagination, when we stretch what we're willing to do and and set for ourselves, we will hit it because we are the creators of our universe. We we get to step into that role. Like, even our bodies, like, even even though whatever happened to me, I still remember at the core, my mind controls my body. I control my mind.
JClay:So it's like, what what's the challenge? You know what I mean? But go ahead.
Troy Washington:No. No. I I I love that. And and I just the thought that came to my head is that because it's my purpose, because, you know, I understand that. My body now would not will not allow me to not do it.
Troy Washington:And so, you know, one of the things that I would tell you is sometimes I because of what I got going on in the day, you know, I get to my workout late in the day. And I'll sit down and I would tell myself, well, I'm only supposed to do this more four days a week. Right? But now my purpose oh, it the purpose overpowers the initial thoughts. And so even at the nighttime, even though I have the grace to not do it, my purpose is, but this is who you are.
Troy Washington:And so I get up and do it anyway. I cannot not do it anymore. And the reason why I cannot not do it is because it's not hard. You get what I'm saying? Because my purpose has minimized what I thought to be any kind of stress on a situation.
Troy Washington:But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. I love that because it yeah. And and and that's the truth. Like like, you hear about practice again. Like, we I I mentioned practice, like, how to step into that.
JClay:Practice does not have to be a physical thing by itself. Like, you it could you could practice in your mind and just be amazed how it dictates to the physical. Like, we we've seen the examples of this in cartoons, but people might not believe it's a cartoon. Blah blah blah. Like, no.
JClay:This this really works. Like, I would even say that your your mental is more important than your physical. But at the same time, it's one and the same because your mental influences your physical. Like, again, we like, I I I love to bring up basketball athletes. They're always reaching for the highest goal.
JClay:They're always trying to jump higher than the next person, and all of them end up having those growth spurts overnight, six plus inches, where they're the tallest people in their family, has nothing to do with genetics because, again, if if they were genetically bound, they would be as height as as tall as the tallest person in their family, but they're usually breaking all of those barriers because they they have that intention, that purpose. Like, I gotta reach higher. I gotta be able to get up there to get the rebound or or or dunk or shoot the shot. And it's one in the same of our mind and our body. That's what it translates to.
JClay:So no matter where you at, like, you could look at your body and see, okay. This is where I think I am right now, but then you could start transitioning that and seeing the results in your mind and then watch it happen in reality is is beautiful.
Troy Washington:No. No. I I I 100% agree. And so that's the challenge for everybody that's listening today. You know, had you taken the time to just really allow your imagination to run free?
Troy Washington:I mean, without killing any thought of what you're seeing or what you're feeling. And then give yourself the opportunity to write those things down and show yourself again, this is all about the work. Right? Show yourself that it can be real versus showing yourself that it cannot be because you you get to choose in any given moment. And again, that's what I like to do for myself now is whenever I have the thought, if it's something that I'm craving, I feel like I I want to do, I give myself the opportunity to see how it can be real versus the opposite.
Troy Washington:And that's what shows me that the timing right now is now. But the other piece to that is removing myself from any co creation or part of the timing. Like, what can I do now? What's going to make me happy now? And then allow the co creation part to come whenever it comes.
Troy Washington:But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. It but as a kid, like, so many things affected my life because I heard them and I took it as truth or law. And then I thought, well, man, this is true. I gotta live according to this. And we all do that.
JClay:We all have beliefs that we took on, and we made a part of us that we believe in. Then later to find out, oh, this might not have necessarily been true. And so the beauty in that is you get to choose the beliefs and laws that you want to accept as truth and realize too that when others are speaking, they're just sharing with you their truth. And so it's it's you can respectfully disagree. It's like, oh oh, okay.
JClay:That's fair that they wanna choose it like that. I wish they knew that they didn't have to be limited by that, if they didn't want to, but that's fair the same way that I'm choosing to not be limited by what they're saying and and live my life according to this. And oftentimes, people get so caught up in the conflict of of it all. Like, everyone has to agree with how I live my life, which is adding more conflict, more turmoil in your life when you know you don't want that. You want peace.
JClay:You want joy. You want enlivenment. You wanna be able to just to just be happy all the time. Well, may or maybe you might not want to and just be real with yourself and accept that, hey. I don't wanna be happy right now.
JClay:That that's not me, but I'm just saying me. I'm happy all the time. But, anyway, yeah. So just don't be so defensive when someone says something that you don't agree with. Don't be ready to to fight.
JClay:Just accept it and and and recite it in your mind how you want it to be.
Troy Washington:Bro, like, you wanna talk about the biggest obstacle in my life? And and again, this is just something that, you know, I the work the work has to be something that's consistent. Right? But to your point, like, the biggest freeing thing that I could have ever done for my self is I I do this whenever I'm talking to everybody. That's when I'm talking to Clay, when I'm talking to my mom, when I'm talking to my wife, when I'm talking to my friends, I will say to myself, I'm okay with you believing whatever you want to believe.
Troy Washington:And I don't say it for them. Sometimes I might say it out loud, right? And especially in the beginning because I needed to hear myself say it. But the the reason being is, this is the truth, this is the true reality of it. And I and I think I say this company.
Troy Washington:Nobody wants everybody to think exactly like that. Nobody. I know you you you want opposing thoughts so that way you have an opportunity to grow, right? That's number one. But number two, the biggest fight that I feel like I've ever had in my life is me saying what I feel somebody coming back and saying something in opposition and me not saying anything back.
Troy Washington:Right? And so the reality of it is, you should be able to state your opinion which is something that I got way better in and no matter what anybody says, it's okay. You don't have to respond. That's number one. But on the flip side of it, when you're not the initiator, allow people to state it and you can still not have anything to say unless asked and even when asked and you give your thoughts, not responding to the response that you're giving.
Troy Washington:Because you have to free yourself in the the sooner you do that, the more opportunity you have for your perfect timing because again, you're flushing out your timing based off of an unrealistic unreal disagreement that's not even really there. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. I I love that. And and I'm I'm a I feel like I'm I'm a king of that. Just just being quiet. Just be quiet.
JClay:Like, just just you you don't gotta respond to everything. Just listen. Especially if somebody says something so off the wall that you wanna react to it, just be quiet. It's Just It's okay. Now if they ask, that's a different thing, and then you can it it it like, they they will be receptive of it.
JClay:But if what happens if they don't ask and then you respond in a in a elevated way, so to speak, they're now able to try to put seeds of doubt into you for your theory and you to theirs. And so, like, you're both weakening each other's theories, and thus, I don't wanna say you're weakening the other because you're not weakening the other, but sometimes people believe that they are their beliefs. They really believe that. And when you crumble somebody's beliefs or their beliefs are shattered shattered, they believe that their whole world is shattered, so they believe they're shattered. And and I I know I just spoke a whole bunch in this short time of of different things that we can break break away from and analyze, but the key to what I'm saying is just be quiet.
JClay:It's cool.
Troy Washington:Straight up. And and and and and to his point, it will be cool. And then I I would also, you know, flip that on yourself. When your imagination is telling you something, just be quiet. Just be cool.
Troy Washington:Just listen. And if you have any inkling in your body to not do something because of a thought, then you should ask yourself why. That's when you have to talk. That's when you want to get clarification. Because you could also be having opposing thoughts based off of not your own perception but based off of where it's your perception but the way you're perceiving other people perceiving what you're doing.
Troy Washington:And so, you know, I just challenge you oh, go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Yeah. And and, yeah, when you said opposing thoughts, because I was like, well, if I don't wanna do it and my thought says I don't wanna do it, I'm listening. But it's only when I wanna do it and my thought says
Troy Washington:I don't wanna, like, look right. No. No. No. I'm with you.
Troy Washington:And and, again, you know, using the great perfect mode as the as the the vehicle to to to describe it. When we first started this podcast, we wanted to do it. We we we wanted to get on and talk and we wanted to express ourself and we wanted to let everybody know that they were perfect. And then we had a thought of all the stuff that we needed to do with. We had like we had to talk.
Troy Washington:Like okay we need to get this. We need to do this. And we do this. How we going to do? It was a whole bunch of hoopla.
Troy Washington:And again I'm not saying that these things are not important. I'm just saying that they were not important in the time. Because at that time, what we ended up doing was, let's just hit go live, bro. Let's just go live. And we went live.
Troy Washington:And here we are now, five years later. And it doesn't mean all the hoop lie we didn't try to get to. We've been getting to it along the way. It doesn't mean that they weren't important. But they weren't as important as doing what we wanted to do.
Troy Washington:And so I think that's the key here. Know what it is that you want, understand your purpose, and allow that to lead the way. But go ahead, Jay.
JClay:Man, I I wanna say to that that point about, like so, okay, when we started the show and you asked me what I thought about the the title, the myth of perfect timing, why now is the best time to start, In in essence, I kinda said, I don't know. And what I love about this is because perfect mode provides an opportunity to flesh out these ideas with someone that I know is growth minded, that is growth and love minded. You know what I mean? Like, sometimes we might flesh out ideas with someone who doesn't have that same purpose underlying purpose. And so that is brought to the surface, and I don't want that to be brought to the surface.
JClay:I want certain things in a certain way. So it's like, this is fulfilling a double purpose to let me see what my real beliefs are and also align them with what I want to believe for like this. So, yeah, I I I again, I I appreciate this. I appreciate you. I appreciate everybody watching.
JClay:If y'all got wisdom to share, put it in the comments because you never know how you're help someone else. And yeah.
Troy Washington:And and right before we get out, I I have to say this because the keyword that you keep saying is alignment. And then you also talked about the people that you have around you that you're sharing this thing with. When you're aligning with your goal, you will also align with the people. It's a reason why me and Clayton together this long. It's a reason why because we we are both growth minded.
Troy Washington:We understand our purpose or part of the purpose that we want to achieve in life. So we therefore are aligned. But, yeah, you know, if you, you know, perfect mode, you have to understand that you're perfect if we can't express anything else today. And, Jay, you can take us out, man.
JClay:Yeah. Remember, you're a perfect creation made by a perfect creator, so you might as well accept your perfection and enter perfect mode. If I reminded you that you are perfect, would you argue me down or step into your perfection? Welcome to perfect tomorrow. To perfect Where there are no excuses, no expectations, and we explore the world without limitations.
JClay:I'm Jay Clay, rapper, a spiritual teacher Perfect. Perfect. Perfect.
